Sleeping with the Enemy: On Women Dating Women While Still Viewing Them as Competition

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“Keep your top on,” she said.

“Sure,” I said, dropping my arms to my sides and then quickly wrapping them around her waist. And as we kissed, I moved my hands up her torso, feeling her body through her shirt. Her chest had its own topography. Subtle places where she came in. Went out.  » Read more

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Bisexuality, Islands of Desire, and Invisible Polyamory

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Invisible Polyamory

Skyspook and I have been charting my polyamorous web chart for the second book (Update: it’s out!). A map of my current relationship system, with all of my partners’ partners and so on. Taken as a whole, it looks hopelessly complicated.

But it never feels that way. These days it’s a pretty stable system.  » Read more

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Proximity, Social Pressure, and Same Sex Erasure in Polyamorous Relationships

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Today’s guest post is from LH, a poly, kinky, queer lady, who identifies as a lesbian. She feels lucky to have found a primary partner who is sweet and loving and makes her feel valued, and a secondary partner whose steady support is a foundation for her. She has been challenged and grown a lot safely,  » Read more

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We Were All Charlie Howard: Growing Up a Queer Anyone in Maine

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With a new film treatment of It coming out this fall, I’m thinking about Charlie Howard again. Although queer kids from Maine don’t really stop thinking about him.

If you’ve read Stephen King’s It (or watched the miniseries from the 90’s), you may be familiar with the scene where teenagers throw a gay man into the river.  » Read more

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