Maybe one day words of self-affirmation won’t feel so weird to me. But until then, I have self-affirming acts as something I can do, a way that I can show myself self-compassion using something other than words.
Category: Self Improvement
I thought watching other people watch movies was a weird impulse. Something personal to me, maybe indicative of a niche quirk I had. Nope, it’s a popular genre of video.
What’s a person supposed to do if confidence is what they’re seeking? It’s the exact opposite of what most people default to: You build other people up.
In a particularly complex volume of the series, I’d sometimes end up with the book on my hand like a glove, my fingers all stuck in various parts of the book. Part of me was always left at the second choice, so I never really chose.
Instead of expecting yourself to be perfect and creating a system where if you fail to be perfect, things go badly, you create a system where there are multiple ways for you to succeed. You set up a system where “failure” isn’t punishing but fine and expected.
Odds are very good that I’m average — or close enough that it doesn’t matter. And after I’ve put in a reasonable amount of work, it doesn’t really benefit me to keep obsessing over it.