Education Is Not About Knowing the Answers. It’s About Learning to Ask Better Questions.

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For a long time, I always felt a lot of pressure to know all the answers. Whenever a question was asked, I was on it.

Life seemed like a quiz show, except the fabulous cash and prizes were the esteem of other people. Being viewed as someone who was smart, which back then to me meant “had all the answers.”  » Read more

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A Different Kind of Self-Confidence: Letting Enough Be Enough Rather than Needing to Feel Like You’re the Best

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There’s always been a lot of pressure to express self-confidence a certain way, in grandiose inflated terms, something that goes a little like this:

“I know I’m terrific. Wonderful. The absolute best. No one and nothing’s gonna hold me back.”

But for me, it’s just not realistic. When I speak the words,  » Read more

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It’s Not Silly to Want Things. What’s Silly Is Thinking That It’s Silly.

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by Page Turner (snapshot)

A few weeks ago, I posted an essay called “It’s Easy to Convince Yourself That an Opportunity Has Passed Forever, But That Doesn’t Mean You’re Right.”

In it, I write about about stumbling upon one of those DIY crystal-growing kits while I’m out shopping for presents and remembering how much I wanted one as a kid,  » Read more

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It’s Easy to Convince Yourself That an Opportunity Has Passed Forever, But That Doesn’t Mean You’re Right.

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“You know,” I say to Justin as we’re out shopping for presents, “I’ve always wanted one of those.”

It’s a kit that lets you grow your own crystals. On the box it says that it’s suitable for ages 10 and up.

“Probably sounds silly,” I say. “But yeah. Lusted after this kind of thing pretty hard when I was a kid.”  » Read more

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Personal Growth Can Be a Wonderful Thing, But It Can Also Sometimes Mean Losing People

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People tend to talk about personal growth in rather glowing terms, like it’s always a desirable goal. Something to be worked towards. Commendable.

But the truth is that the outcome isn’t always rosy, at least not in the short term. The most important growth usually doesn’t come without some sort of cost.

The hardest part about figuring yourself out is that you can’t always take other people with you.  » Read more

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Princesses Are Good, Queens Are Evil

It's a stillshot frame of My Little Pony: Friendship is Magic wtih a unicorn chilling in front of a fire with a pen and quill. Words over image read: My Little Pony: Friendship Is Magic. Princess Celestia was originally a queen but was changed because Hasbro executives thought Disney had too closely associated Queens as villains
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I know most people don’t talk about memes very much. Most people consider them trivial, barely worthy of fleeting attention. But I personally enjoy and share them a lot and have found some memes to offer unexpectedly deep looks into subjects, mirrors that reflect what we share in common with others, or don’t. While most memes are pretty silly,  » Read more

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