When Dealing With a Manipulative Person, Never JADE

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It’s one of the unfortunate realities of interpersonal communication: The way that you talk to people in healthy situations will cause major problems when you’re trying to talk to someone stuck in unhealthy dynamics. That’s because manipulative people with toxic personalities will hijack normal conversational maxims and norms and exploit them to their own ends.  » Read more

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Ben Franklin Effect, Cognitive Dissonance, and the Subtle Art of Asking for a Favor

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If someone does a favor for you, you like them more, right?

But what about the person doing the favor for you? One would expect that you risk making that person feel put out, surely. Inconvenienced. And they might hold having done that favor against you.

But curiously, researchers have found that they don’t.  » Read more

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Can Where You Live Affect How You Love? U.S. Regions & Attachment Style

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As I wrote in a previous post, perhaps the biggest lesson of all in child development is that the first year of so of our life is a radically important time for us emotionally. While we continue to learn about trust and social relationships over the course of our life (and experience another notable period of turbulence at puberty),  » Read more

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28 Needs That Shape Our Individual Personalities & How We Interact With Others

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Have you ever been talking to someone and suddenly find yourself wondering, “Why do you care so much about that?”

I definitely have. Some people will even say something like that aloud, causing much consternation from their conversation partner and sometimes even a bit of a verbal tussle.

The fact of the matter is that not all people are the same.  » Read more

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