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I never really gave much thought to the fact that I grew up in the woods (in Maine, more specifically).
The other night, however, my partner was showing me their white noise app (Relaxio). It has a bunch of sliding bars in it that are marked with icons. There are a couple for rain (either how it sounds if you’re outside or how it sounds inside hitting the roof). » Read more
I’m sure you’ve been there.
You’re driving down the highway, just trying to get where you’re trying to go. Staying in your own lane. Driving as safely as you can with both hands on the wheel and your eyes on the road…
When you come upon someone that’s driving like they’re a zombie who stole a car. » Read more
Can you be lonely with others around? And does being alone naturally lead to loneliness?
I’ve wondered these very same things myself. And so have others apparently — because there was a large study on loneliness last year looking into these issues and other matters related to it.
A Large-Scale Study on Loneliness
In 2018, » Read more
At this point, Poly Land has featured a number of articles on jealousy (including this article that many have found quite helpful in coping with jealousy).
As I’ve mentioned before, it can be difficult when experiencing jealousy to figure out exactly what you’re feeling. Jealousy isn’t a single discrete emotion but a system of emotions, » Read more
It’s no secret that children don’t just do what they’re told to. And instead, they learn a lot by watching and imitating others.
That’s where the whole ideal of a “role model” stems from. The term was originally coined by the late sociologist Robert Merton. (Incidentally, Merton also coined the term “self-fulfilling prophecy” » Read more
Have you ever known someone who really seemed fully convinced that their beliefs were vastly superior to everyone around them? And who not only felt that way but also felt a need to run around making sure to correct everyone?
Someone who seemed completely unable to tolerate the reality that it might be acceptable for other people to have different beliefs than them? » Read more
“Do as I say, not as I do.”
It’s been shown countless times that children learn a lot by observing what those around them do and imitating that.
Even if those same examples caution them against performing the behaviors, actions speak louder than words. And they’re more likely to mimic what they see than to follow instructions that conflict with the actions of those cautioning them. » Read more
Personality tests? Bunch of hooey, amirite?
I mean, maybe it’s fun to find your ramen patronus, but nobody takes them seriously, right?
They’re not based on science or anything… are they?
Well, a viral quiz’s assessment of what kind of lover you are based on the food you prefer is suspect, » Read more
Although it’s been said that sorry is the hardest word, I’ve also heard the following many times: “It’s easy enough to say you’re sorry. Doesn’t mean you mean it.”
Or something like it. Hundreds of times at this point.
It’s a pattern I’ve seen in my own personal life, » Read more
A great deal of time, energy, and attention are generally paid to psychology’s attempts to plumb the dark depths of the human soul. This is evidenced by how popular terms from abnormal psychology are when contrasted with terms that describe normative psychology.
A lot of lay folks know (and in fact use) terms like “narcissist,” » Read more
