When You Think Everything’s Going to Go Wrong That Possibly Could

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“Ugh,” I say. “I’m never going to get everything ready in time.” I’m standing in a house that’s perhaps half-finished its renovations. I’m about three-quarters packed. There’s about a week and a half left before everything needs to be done. And I’m starting to panic.

As I stand there, beginning to freak out,  » Read more

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They Say, “It’s Just Like Riding a Bike,” But What Does That Mean, Really?

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Lately, I’ve been speed packing, cleaning, and renovating my house because I’m trying to get it ready to sell on a short time frame.

I’ve spent eight years living here. Eight very happy years. Eight very stable years. Especially after a life that had me moving around quite often due to a troubled family life in adolescence and then financial instability as a young adult.  » Read more

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It’s Better to Just Keep Your Promises Than to Try to Really Wow People

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There’s an old school of thought in business called “underpromise, overdeliver.”

Essentially, this advice says that what you should do is set customer expectations low so that you can not only meet them but exceed them. That it’s important not only to satisfy your customers but to thrill them.

It might take extra effort than simply setting up reasonable expectations and meeting them (the double think and communication required to have one internal story for employees and another external one for customers),  » Read more

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How Commonly Do Women Fake Orgasms and Why?

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One of the things you learn very early on when you study psychological research is that what people say they do and what they actually do don’t always line up. In fact, they quite frequently differ. So as a researcher (who also happens to be a woman), it’s not surprising to me that it’s not all that uncommon for women to fake orgasms at least once in their life.  » Read more

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No Matter What Intense Feeling You’re Currently Having, Eventually You’ll Return to Your Norm

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The good news is that no matter what difficult thing you’re going through, odds are that eventually things will swing back the other way for you emotionally. And even though it can take a lot longer than we want sometimes, it’s basically inevitable that you won’t feel quite that bad forever.

The bad news is that no matter what thrilling or fun things you’re currently experiencing,  » Read more

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