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If her doubts had started on her wedding day, I probably would have called them cold feet.
But they didn’t.
She started wanting to back out a full six months before the wedding.
“This sounds really serious,” I’d tell her. “What are you going to do?”
“What can I do?” » Read more
“You’ll worry less about what people think of you when you realize how seldom they do.”
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I’ll be the first to admit it. I’ve done a lot of embarrassing things in my life. Said things I wish I could immediately take back. Done things I wish I could immediately undo. » Read more
If you’ve ever spent any time traveling by boat, you know all about the importance of developing sea legs.
Especially when moving over the choppier waters of a stormy sea or ocean, it can be difficult at first to walk steadily on the deck of a ship. This is particularly the case if you’ve never done it before. » Read more
When I first started dating, I was pretty clueless about what kind of person I should be seeking out. I was frankly pretty slapdash with regard to partner selection.
In the early days, I pretty much would date anyone who would have me. I looked at dating as a challenge where I needed to trick the other person into thinking I was their ideal partner until it was too late for them to change their mind about me — » Read more
Sometimes people have this idea that reality runs like a video tape before us. One in which we simultaneously perceive everything going on. If it happened while we were there, we saw it. No question. And everyone who was also there also saw the same tape.
But scientists studying memory, cognition, » Read more
These days, Martin Seligman is doing pretty uplifting work. A past president of the American Psychological Association, Seligman is often known as the father of positive psychology, a newer subspecialty that focuses on the positive aspects of human behavior: Striving, thriving, flourishing.
But his big break into psychological research wasn’t so rosy.
In his earliest days as a researcher, » Read more
According to most surveys on the subject (e.g., Woolley et. al., 2011; Prentice et. al, 1978, etc.), about 85% of 5-year-old children believe that Santa Claus is real.
Researchers find that children typically begin to believe in Santa Claus when they’re 3 or 4 years old. And that this belief stays fairly strong until they are 8 years old, » Read more
Every now and then I’ll be hanging out with someone, and it’ll me like a bolt of lightning. Initiated by a playful smile, a certain laugh, a quick movement of the eyes.
Oh wow, I’ll think. They’re really into me.
And then I’ll catch myself and remind myself, » Read more
“And that’s why it’s been a really rough time lately,” my friend says, clearly looking pained.
I nod. Her story reminds me of a similar time in my own life. A time that I struggled. And I almost launch into that exact story, but I manage to stop myself just before I do. » Read more
This’ll Help Things Turn Out for the Worst Best
“Cheer up, Brian. You know what they say.
Some things in life are bad,
They can really make you mad.
Other things just make you swear and curse.
When you’re chewing on life’s gristle,
Don’t grumble, give a whistle!
And this’ll help things turn out for the… » Read more
