“Things’ll fall together eventually,” I say. “Just gotta keep on… shit, how did you put it?”
He cocks his head in the way he does when he’s listening to the question but doesn’t know exactly what I’m asking him.
“I want to say ‘keep on grinding,’” I continue. “But I know you don’t like that expression.” » Read more
Not everyone thinks the way you think, knows the things you know, believes the things you believe, nor acts the way you would act.
Remember this and you will go a long way in getting along with people.
My ex-husband had a really hard time understanding this, » Read more
The vast majority of people don’t worry much at all about getting into a car. Like a lot of other people, I myself have been known to do it multiple times in the same day. I’ve headed out to work, to the store, to home, and then later left go on a date before driving back home after. » Read more
Sometimes people say really weird things when they hold babies.
For starters, there’s nonsensical baby talk. Goo goos and gaa gaas. All that.
And then there are the observations grown adults will sometimes make that sound, well, frankly a little more hostile or angry than they do happy: “You’re so cute I want to eat you up.” » Read more
If her doubts had started on her wedding day, I probably would have called them cold feet.
But they didn’t.
She started wanting to back out a full six months before the wedding.
“This sounds really serious,” I’d tell her. “What are you going to do?”
“What can I do?” » Read more
“You’ll worry less about what people think of you when you realize how seldom they do.”
I’ll be the first to admit it. I’ve done a lot of embarrassing things in my life. Said things I wish I could immediately take back. Done things I wish I could immediately undo. » Read more
If you’ve ever spent any time traveling by boat, you know all about the importance of developing sea legs.
Especially when moving over the choppier waters of a stormy sea or ocean, it can be difficult at first to walk steadily on the deck of a ship. This is particularly the case if you’ve never done it before. » Read more
When I first started dating, I was pretty clueless about what kind of person I should be seeking out. I was frankly pretty slapdash with regard to partner selection.
In the early days, I pretty much would date anyone who would have me. I looked at dating as a challenge where I needed to trick the other person into thinking I was their ideal partner until it was too late for them to change their mind about me — » Read more
Sometimes people have this idea that reality runs like a video tape before us. One in which we simultaneously perceive everything going on. If it happened while we were there, we saw it. No question. And everyone who was also there also saw the same tape.
But scientists studying memory, cognition, » Read more
These days, Martin Seligman is doing pretty uplifting work. A past president of the American Psychological Association, Seligman is often known as the father of positive psychology, a newer subspecialty that focuses on the positive aspects of human behavior: Striving, thriving, flourishing.
But his big break into psychological research wasn’t so rosy.
In his earliest days as a researcher, » Read more