When you’re trying to make a decision, how long do you explore alternatives? Are you okay with settling for “good enough” or does the idea of settling fill you with dread?
Some people have high standards and demand the absolute best. They want to make sure the new dishwasher they’ve selected is the top of the line, » Read more
You’d like to think if you were rich that you would do good things with the money. That you’d become a philanthropist, change the world. That you wouldn’t be one of those ole-timey villain millionaires (villainaires?) sitting atop a giant pile of money like a dragon hoarding a cache of gold coins.
Right? » Read more
Have you ever been talking to someone and suddenly find yourself wondering, “Why do you care so much about that?”
I definitely have. Some people will even say something like that aloud, causing much consternation from their conversation partner and sometimes even a bit of a verbal tussle.
The fact of the matter is that not all people are the same. » Read more
In a recent installment of Psyched for the Weekend, I introduced the Triangular Model of Love as a helpful framework for differentiating between and communicating about different kinds of love.
In today’s post, I’m going to talk about another model later developed by the same researcher, Dr. Robert Sternberg: Love as a story. » Read more
Many of the conversations we have around love can be very confusing. Part of this stems from the fact that what we call “love” and what another person calls “love” may very well not be the same thing.
Furthermore, one person can talk about many different kinds of love, all the while using the same word to describe things that are not at all the same. » Read more
As I walk up on my friend, I catch them midsentence. I have no idea what they’re saying. But it’s evident that they’re not talking to me. And it’s also clear that they’re not on the phone.
Instead, they’re hunched over their laptop, solving what seems to be a complicated problem. Designing a project. » Read more
I can remember it clearly, the pressure to be right all the time.
Grade school, junior high, high school. It was all the rage. Especially in my group of friends.
I hung out with the “smart” kids. Girls (mostly) who took advanced placement courses, read for fun. Had unusual talents and interests. » Read more
In 1943, Abraham Maslow introduced his hierarchy of needs in his paper A Theory of Motivation. According to his hierarchy, human beings are motivated by a number of different needs, but some are more basic than others. If those basic needs aren’t met first, then a person will not have the opportunity or drive to work towards ones higher up in the hierarchy. » Read more
A while back, I wrote an article on one of my favorite tools in the quest of maintaining my sanity: The gray rock method.
The gray rock method can be an emotional lifesaver in situations where you’re forced to interact with a manipulative person. Especially one who is good at laying conversational traps and kicking up drama out of nowhere. » Read more
While the study of the nuts and bolts of the human mind is still arguably in its infancy, people have been observing and arguing about human behavior for centuries. Empirical social science is relatively new (with the earliest formal studies only going back to the 19th century) but has managed to make a dizzying number of discoveries and exciting insights about human nature — » Read more