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“Do what you love for a living, and you’ll never work a day in your life,” they say.
It’s snappy. Inspirational. And that’s a big reason I imagine that the saying is so popular.
But when it comes to the actual science behind motivation, it turns out it’s not true at all. » Read more
Even before the pandemic drove so many inside, I can tell you that an awful lot of people are pretty much always online.
And it’s not just people who want to be online. These days I do most of my work online (as someone who writes for a living), which means spending a lot of time online, » Read more
You know… I’ve done it. I’ve had breakup sex.
It was just the one time, actually. I was lonely — went to hang out with this ex. I didn’t even go there hoping to hook up. It was a rough period of my life where I just really didn’t have much of a support system. » Read more
He’s complaining about his love life. I mean, I don’t blame him. It’s been a long dry spell, so I see what he means.
But I can see he does have a few folks interested in him — and I’m starting to feel like he might just be stuck in one of those vicious cycles. » Read more
One of the very first things you learn about when you go to school for psychology is conditioning. Most folks are familiar with classical conditioning — Pavlov’s dogs, all that jazz. It’s based on producing involuntary responses to a certain stimulus. In the case of that famous experiment, dogs learned to salivate when a bell rang — » Read more
It’s basically a trope at this point. When a child is in trouble, a parent calls them by their full name: First, middle, and last.
“John Quincy Adams, you get right down here this minute!”
Fun fact: I wanted to use Abraham Lincoln as an example, but he didn’t have a middle name. » Read more
In a few former installments of Psyched, I addressed two hallmarks of adolescence: Disembedding and personal fable. For more information about those concepts, please read those articles.
I’d like to tackle another common psychological phenomenon that first shows up in adolescence. It’s actually somewhat related to the personal fable (briefly, » Read more
Neat. Okay, so former research into the links between sexual desire and relationship satisfaction has found that when partners have similar levels of sexual desire that they tend to be more satisfied.
This isn’t hard to believe. It’s something that makes a lot of intuitive sense.
Interestingly, however, a recent study — » Read more
As I covered in an earlier installment of Psyched, a lot of friends with benefits (FWB) are hoping for the arrangement to become romantic. Frankly, more than I would have expected before I found that study. (Its findings were truly surprising to me.)
But that earlier study was a survey, » Read more
Long ago and far away, I managed the training department of a psychological consulting firm. This pretty much meant I was always doing something related to training. Sometimes this meant looking over educators’ training programs and helping them optimize the material for the crowd they were trying to reach. Other times it meant designing custom courses for client companies for workplace wellness and/or conflict resolution. » Read more
