The 8 Kinds of Love in the Triangular Model of Love

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Many of the conversations we have around love can be very confusing. Part of this stems from the fact that what we call “love” and what another person calls “love” may very well not be the same thing.

Furthermore, one person can talk about many different kinds of love, all the while using the same word to describe things that are not at all the same.  » Read more

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When You Move Away From Trying to Be Right All the Time & Focus on Learning Instead

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I can remember it clearly, the pressure to be right all the time.

Grade school, junior high, high school. It was all the rage. Especially in my group of friends.

I hung out with the “smart” kids. Girls (mostly) who took advanced placement courses, read for fun. Had unusual talents and interests.  » Read more

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What You’re Like When You Achieve Your Full Potential, According to Experts

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In 1943, Abraham Maslow introduced his hierarchy of needs in his paper A Theory of Motivation. According to his hierarchy, human beings are motivated by a number of different needs, but some are more basic than others. If those basic needs aren’t met first, then a person will not have the opportunity or drive to work towards ones higher up in the hierarchy.  » Read more

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Turn Down the Heat on Difficult People by Staying Medium Chill

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A while back, I wrote an article on one of my favorite tools in the quest of maintaining my sanity: The gray rock method.

The gray rock method can be an emotional lifesaver in situations where you’re forced to interact with a manipulative person. Especially one who is good at laying conversational traps and kicking up drama out of nowhere.  » Read more

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People Often Don’t Know Why They Believe Things But Will Come Up With a Reason Anyway

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While the study of the nuts and bolts of the human mind is still arguably in its infancy, people have been observing and arguing about human behavior for centuries. Empirical social science is relatively new (with the earliest formal studies only going back to the 19th century) but has managed to make a dizzying number of discoveries and exciting insights about human nature —  » Read more

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The Drunk and Sober Versions of You Have Different Memory Banks

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“Things’ll fall together eventually,” I say. “Just gotta keep on… shit, how did you put it?”

He cocks his head in the way he does when he’s listening to the question but doesn’t know exactly what I’m asking him.

“I want to say ‘keep on grinding,’” I continue. “But I know you don’t like that expression.”  » Read more

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It’s Easy to Underestimate the Number of Pro-Polyamory Monogamous People Out There

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The vast majority of people don’t worry much at all about getting into a car. Like a lot of other people, I myself have been known to do it multiple times in the same day. I’ve headed out to work, to the store, to home, and then later left go on a date before driving back home after.  » Read more

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