One Little Word We Use, Or Don’t, Can Provide Hints About Our Attachment Style

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As I’ve written in previous posts, perhaps the biggest lesson of all in child development is that the first year of so of our life is a radically important time for us emotionally. While we continue to learn about trust and social relationships over the course of our life (and experience another notable period of turbulence at puberty),  » Read more

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Yes, You Probably DO Have a “Type”

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Have you ever emerged from a very difficult relationship, swearing off ever dating someone like that again, only to find yourself later gravitating towards people who share a lot in common with your ex?

I sure have. And at that point, it becomes a mental wrestling match where I weigh the pros and cons and try to remind myself that people can have similar characteristics and yet not carry the same baggage or engage in the same difficult behaviors.  » Read more

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Why Public Figures Who Say Homophobic Things Are So Often Caught Having Gay Sex

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At this point, I can’t tell you how many times I’ve watched a public figure who’s vehemently homophobic end up getting nabbed in the act of having gay sex. Typically somewhere wildly inappropriate, too. Like at their office. Or in a public restroom.

Places you really shouldn’t be having sex, even if you aren’t being a giant hypocrite who says TEH GAY IS EVIL.  » Read more

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When You Know Something But Can’t Remember Where You Learned It

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My friend is talking to me about a study with interesting findings.

“Oh wow,” I say. “That sounds really cool.” I tell them if they could send it over to me that would be great.

“Sure,” they say. But then add, “Actually, I’m not sure where I heard about it.”

We spend the next several minutes seeing if they can give me some more details.  » Read more

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When You Think Everything’s Going to Go Wrong That Possibly Could

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“Ugh,” I say. “I’m never going to get everything ready in time.” I’m standing in a house that’s perhaps half-finished its renovations. I’m about three-quarters packed. There’s about a week and a half left before everything needs to be done. And I’m starting to panic.

As I stand there, beginning to freak out,  » Read more

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They Say, “It’s Just Like Riding a Bike,” But What Does That Mean, Really?

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Lately, I’ve been speed packing, cleaning, and renovating my house because I’m trying to get it ready to sell on a short time frame.

I’ve spent eight years living here. Eight very happy years. Eight very stable years. Especially after a life that had me moving around quite often due to a troubled family life in adolescence and then financial instability as a young adult.  » Read more

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