Turns Out a Lot of Friends With Benefits Want the Connection to Turn Romantic

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Ah, the friends with benefits (FWB) relationship… Just invoking it can cause sharp reactions in people. The label has a rather storied history, one that can be quite divisive, with many people saying they’d never pursue one and other people saying it’s a form of connection they prefer.

Still others say that they don’t do friends with benefits and go on to describe a situation that sounds remarkably like a traditional FWB setup,  » Read more

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You’re Likely to Weight Your Introduction to Something Far More Than You Should

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It can be kind of annoying sometimes, and humbling, but the truth is that the human brain is calibrated for speed, not accuracy.

It makes sense when you think of it from an evolutionary perspective. Snap decisions are crucial in survival settings. If you’re being chased by a predator, it’s more important that you react quickly.  » Read more

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Exposure to Nature Can Be Soothing and Good for Healing

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I never really gave much thought to the fact that I grew up in the woods (in Maine, more specifically).

The other night, however, my partner was showing me their white noise app (Relaxio). It has a bunch of sliding bars in it that are marked with icons. There are a couple for rain (either how it sounds if you’re outside or how it sounds inside hitting the roof).  » Read more

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What Kind of Person Is More Likely to Use a Cell Phone Dangerously While Driving?

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I’m sure you’ve been there.

You’re driving down the highway, just trying to get where you’re trying to go. Staying in your own lane. Driving as safely as you can with both hands on the wheel and your eyes on the road…

When you come upon someone that’s driving like they’re a zombie who stole a car.  » Read more

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Being Alone and Feeling Lonely Are Different Things

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Can you be lonely with others around? And does being alone naturally lead to loneliness?

I’ve wondered these very same things myself. And so have others apparently — because there was a large study on loneliness last year looking into these issues and other matters related to it.

A Large-Scale Study on Loneliness

In 2018,  » Read more

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Malicious Envy, Benign Envy, and Deservingness

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At this point, Poly Land has featured a number of articles on jealousy (including this article that many have found quite helpful in coping with jealousy).

As I’ve mentioned before, it can be difficult when experiencing jealousy to figure out exactly what you’re feeling. Jealousy isn’t a single discrete emotion but a system of emotions,  » Read more

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Children Can Learn Aggressive Behavior by Watching and Imitating It

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It’s no secret that children don’t just do what they’re told to. And instead, they learn a lot by watching and imitating others.

That’s where the whole ideal of a “role model” stems from. The term was originally coined by the late sociologist Robert Merton. (Incidentally, Merton also coined the term “self-fulfilling prophecy”  » Read more

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