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Photo by tuncaycoskun / CC BY It’s a funny thing, never feeling like you’re enough. “I know I’ll lose you eventually,” I told my husband

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Poly Issues

Unnaturally Poly

A lot of my favorite poly bloggers share a similar story: They came to polyamory naturally. Monogamy just wasn’t a thing that they did well

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Narrow Path to Security

“Insecurity invents its own evidence and supports its own premises. No amount of someone else’s time and effort is enough to make an insecure person

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The Wine Pledge

In vino motherfucking veritas. Reopening my relationship with Skyspook has brought up a lot of emotions, many of them good, some of them bad, on

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When Skyspook and I first started dating 3 years ago, he was seeing 2 other married women in addition to me, and I had a

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I was over poking around at the Pragmatic Polyamory blog this morning and edited a saved partial draft of an essay I’d been working on,

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Attachment Styles

I mentioned in my last blog post, “Patient, Forget Thyself,” that the last book I finished, Martin Seligman’s Authentic Happiness, had multiple take-aways. The one

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