“Can we go, or are you going to pout all night?” His tone was sharp, and I cringed away from him.
“Am I not allowed to feel bad?” I replied, feeling something shrivel up inside of me.
“If you’re going to pout, you’ll have to stay home,” he restated.
I wasn’t aware that I was pouting. » Read more
Part #1 of the Poly Debriefing series is available here.
Part #2 of the Poly Debriefing series is available here.
Part #3 of the Poly Debriefing series is available here.
Part #4 of the Poly Debriefing series is available here. » Read more
to be told by my ex-husband that I was right to divorce him, that I was right when I said I was enabling him and that going our separate ways was the right thing to do, as much as he thought I was wrong about it at the time.
We talked for hours over IM last night, » Read more
In the year leading up to this past fall, I was frustrated and beaten down by my job, by the way the transcription industry was requiring more work for less pay with each passing year, and how powerless I seemed to do anything about it. Changes in compensation, for example, had placed extreme stress on the last few years of my first marriage – » Read more
It’s widely acknowledged that most second marriages end in divorce – and while statistics predict that the majority of first marriages fail, the failure rate for first marriages is barely a majority with the percentage being just over half and the failure rate for second marriages being closer to two-thirds.
Though I ended up marrying Skyspook anyway, » Read more
Woo! As I posted earlier, I finished the first draft of my polyamory memoir last month. I’ve been waiting to work on the second draft of that book until the semester is over next week – in an effort to give myself time and distance away from the project so that I can edit it more objectively. » Read more
I mentioned in my last blog post, “Patient, Forget Thyself,” that the last book I finished, Martin Seligman’s Authentic Happiness, had multiple take-aways. The one I described in that entry was the distinction Seligman makes regarding gratification vs. pleasure and the integral part self-absorption plays in depression.
The other huge take-away for me was an introduction to relationship attachment styles. » Read more
Me: Two girls are always better than one, right? Isn’t that what guys want? The more girls, the better. X is always less than X + 1.
Skyspook: No, not in the case of negative infinity or positive infinity. » Read more
Though these days I’m only dating 1 fellow, I still get insane amounts of compersion (a.k.a mudita) off watching my polyamorous friends date each other.
At regular intervals, one or another of them will gush to me about a good date, a good conversation, a good fuck they’ve had, whatever, which lights up my chest like the world’s biggest Christmas tree. » Read more
Some days I walk through public places
and everyone recognizes me
and I wonder how they came to own that part of me—
their memory of me
“the reactionary,” Gino the Wise
“Ugh,” my mom said, frowning at my camera phone. » Read more