I wanted to let you know I appreciate your articles and your writing style, most specifically in the sense that you’re giving suggestions and advice, primarily to poly folk, however, even looking at a mono relationship as I am, I easily see where things cross over. » Read more
“Do you think you could ever go back to being monogamous?” I’m sometimes asked. Maybe. It really depends on what you are talking about when you’re talking about monogamy.
Could I limit myself to only having sex with one partner? Certainly. It’s not that difficult. Masturbation and imagination can go a long way. » Read more
“We come to love not by finding a perfect person, but by learning to see an imperfect person perfectly.”
“So this is going to sound a little weird, Page,” he said.
“Perfect,” I said.
“I love it when there’s something wrong with the girls I date, » Read more
This is my brain weasel, Martin the pine marten. Whenever I can’t sleep because of brain weasels, I imagine him in a tiny leather jacket (because brain weasels always travel in gangs).
You’re welcome to as well. Martin gets around.
What is a brain weasel, you ask?
It’s that little voice in your head with the nagging self-doubt, » Read more
“Please do not understand me too quickly.”
“Page, it’s eating me up. I never know what he’s thinking. If I could just see his thoughts, everything would just be better.”
It was like talking to myself. Their relationship was solid, he clearly loved her. A lot of her insecurity stemmed not from her new love, » Read more
I recently wrote about how much damage can be done to a person or an entire network of relationships in polyamory when everyone involved isn’t pulling their weight.
I forgot to mention that we need to be careful when considering what people are contributing. All work does not look the same. » Read more
I’m so ridiculously excited right now! Why am I so excited? I just signed up to go to Beyond the Love 2016 in Columbus, Ohio. Beyond the Love is a 3-day polyamory conference (this year being held November 11-13) hosted by some of my favorite poly personalities.
Their speaker list is NO joke. » Read more
Photo by Jenny Downing / CC BY
“Be patient toward all that is unsolved in your heart and try to love the questions themselves, like locked rooms and like books that are now written in a very foreign tongue. Do not now seek the answers, which cannot be given you because you would not be able to live them. » Read more
It’s a familiar story – you start a new job. You’re nervous at first because you don’t know how you’re going to master everything they throw your way, but you put in effort, work hard, and persevere. It’s a struggle, but eventually you’ve got the hang of it. It may have felt like forever to you – but everyone’s so impressed by how quickly you picked it up and how well you’re doing. » Read more
Photo by Glenn E. Wilson / CC BY
If you love a flower, don’t pick it up.
Because if you pick it up it dies and it ceases to be what you love.
So if you love a flower, let it be.
Love is not about possession. » Read more