Stupid Ravioli Crush

ravioli with marinara sauce on a plate

It’s a painful kind of limbo, being extremely physically attracted to someone, all the while knowing if I actually had to be in a relationship with them, odds are I would be constructing a morning star from large unopened ravioli cans and wailing them in the head before the end of the first week.  » Read more

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PQ 1.5 – How important is transparency to me? If I have more than one lover, am I happy with them knowing about each other? If they have other lovers, am I happy knowing them?

a transparent organism where you can see its spine

Poly Question 1.5

How important is transparency to me? If I have more than one lover, am I happy with them knowing about each other? If they have other lovers, am I happy knowing them?

The importance of transparency for me is very context dependent.

Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell Sucks  

I could never have an ongoing romantic relationship with someone who would not meet Skyspook.  » Read more

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Selfishly Helping

2 kittens snuggling

It’s a funny thing… over the years, I have acted as a sounding board and supportive listener for a very large number of people. And I’ll admit it hasn’t always been easy – sometimes the timing is very inconvenient, sometimes you have empathy overload and feel an incredible amount of their pain, and sometimes you’re put in awkward spots where people have confided in you about each other,  » Read more

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Is It a Date?

a pink razor

“What do you think? Do you want to get together?”

“Sure, that sounds great.”

Schedules are coordinated, the time is set, logistics set. Your place, theirs? Who’s driving? Going out or staying in or both?

Aaaaaaand we’re good.

Except it’s unclear whether it’s a hangout or a date.  » Read more

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