“Do you think you could ever go back to being monogamous?” I’m sometimes asked. Maybe. It really depends on what you are talking about when you’re talking about monogamy.
Could I limit myself to only having sex with one partner? Certainly. It’s not that difficult. Masturbation and imagination can go a long way. » Read more
“We come to love not by finding a perfect person, but by learning to see an imperfect person perfectly.”
“So this is going to sound a little weird, Page,” he said.
“Perfect,” I said.
“I love it when there’s something wrong with the girls I date, » Read more
This is my brain weasel, Martin the pine marten. Whenever I can’t sleep because of brain weasels, I imagine him in a tiny leather jacket (because brain weasels always travel in gangs).
You’re welcome to as well. Martin gets around.
What is a brain weasel, you ask?
It’s that little voice in your head with the nagging self-doubt, » Read more
“Please do not understand me too quickly.”
“Page, it’s eating me up. I never know what he’s thinking. If I could just see his thoughts, everything would just be better.”
It was like talking to myself. Their relationship was solid, he clearly loved her. A lot of her insecurity stemmed not from her new love, » Read more
I recently wrote about how much damage can be done to a person or an entire network of relationships in polyamory when everyone involved isn’t pulling their weight.
I forgot to mention that we need to be careful when considering what people are contributing. All work does not look the same. » Read more
I’m so ridiculously excited right now! Why am I so excited? I just signed up to go to Beyond the Love 2016 in Columbus, Ohio. Beyond the Love is a 3-day polyamory conference (this year being held November 11-13) hosted by some of my favorite poly personalities.
Their speaker list is NO joke. » Read more
Photo by Jenny Downing / CC BY
“Be patient toward all that is unsolved in your heart and try to love the questions themselves, like locked rooms and like books that are now written in a very foreign tongue. Do not now seek the answers, which cannot be given you because you would not be able to live them. » Read more
It’s a familiar story – you start a new job. You’re nervous at first because you don’t know how you’re going to master everything they throw your way, but you put in effort, work hard, and persevere. It’s a struggle, but eventually you’ve got the hang of it. It may have felt like forever to you – but everyone’s so impressed by how quickly you picked it up and how well you’re doing. » Read more
Photo by Glenn E. Wilson / CC BY
If you love a flower, don’t pick it up.
Because if you pick it up it dies and it ceases to be what you love.
So if you love a flower, let it be.
Love is not about possession. » Read more
Photo by Phil Roeder / CC BY
“Page, I don’t know what to do,” he said. “I’m in this fantastic relationship with a good old-fashioned girl.”
“This doesn’t sound like a problem,” I said, smirking.
“It wasn’t. Until I met this other girl. She’s amazing.” » Read more