I’ve been reading your site. It’s pretty good, but I thought you could benefit from an opposing viewpoint. I feel like you are not really writing for polyamorous people on this website. Your whole editorial slant revolves around with the idea that being in nonexclusive relationships does not come naturally to a lot of people and requires work from them. » Read more
Perhaps the biggest lesson of all in child development is that the first year of so of our life is a radically important time for us emotionally. While we continue to learn about trust and social relationships over the course of our life (and experience another notable period of turbulence at puberty), the bulk of how we learn to be in relationships takes root when we’re infants. » Read more
“Wow, you’re poly?” she said. “I’d love to have an open relationship, but I’m too jealous. I could never do that.”
While I respect everyone’s decision to have whatever type of relationship they see fit (whether poly, mono, what have you), I’m always skeptical of people’s pronouncements that they couldn’t do poly. » Read more
It can be as overwhelming as it is freeing. Once you move away from the standard template of what romantic relationships are supposed to be, how things are supposed to progress from stage to stage (the relationship escalator), there’s a dizzying variety to the types of connections we can actually forge with people. » Read more
Vulnerability sounds like truth and feels like courage. Truth and courage aren’t always comfortable, but they’re never weakness.
I was on fire again. Staring at Seth, watching him sleep.
I wished I could sleep, too.
No chance of that. » Read more
“To improve is to change; to be perfect is to change often.”
“I’m worried I’ll never be able to look at them in the same way.”
I hear this often from people who are polycurious but nervous about taking the leap and opening up. » Read more
I wanted to let you know I appreciate your articles and your writing style, most specifically in the sense that you’re giving suggestions and advice, primarily to poly folk, however, even looking at a mono relationship as I am, I easily see where things cross over. » Read more
“Do you think you could ever go back to being monogamous?” I’m sometimes asked. Maybe. It really depends on what you are talking about when you’re talking about monogamy.
Could I limit myself to only having sex with one partner? Certainly. It’s not that difficult. Masturbation and imagination can go a long way. » Read more
“We come to love not by finding a perfect person, but by learning to see an imperfect person perfectly.”
“So this is going to sound a little weird, Page,” he said.
“Perfect,” I said.
“I love it when there’s something wrong with the girls I date, » Read more
This is my brain weasel, Martin the pine marten. Whenever I can’t sleep because of brain weasels, I imagine him in a tiny leather jacket (because brain weasels always travel in gangs).
You’re welcome to as well. Martin gets around.
What is a brain weasel, you ask?
It’s that little voice in your head with the nagging self-doubt, » Read more