PQ 2.2 — What configurations am I open to? Am I looking for a particular configuration because I’m afraid that others might be more scary or more threatening?

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I am open to whatever configuration makes the most sense logistically and given the personalities of all involved.

It seems like folly to decide what structure I’m going to build without first having the component parts in hand.

Besides, every time I have tried to come up with some kind of tentative plan,  » Read more

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Waiting for the Other Shoe to Drop: A Paradox

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“I don’t know why I get so jealous,” she said. “I’ve been poly for years, and this has never happened to me, with anyone.”

Her face had suddenly grown quite serious. She’d just finished a story of a former partner she had worked so hard for, putting up with his shortcomings, rearranging her life.  » Read more

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PQ 2.1 — What are my needs in relationships? Are they attached to specific people? That is, do I need these things generally, or do I need them just from certain people?

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What are my needs in relationships? Are they attached to specific people? That is, do I need these things generally, or do I need them just from certain people?

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Casual relationships are simple. For casual relationships, I need things to be entertaining and fun, and as long there’s physical chemistry,  » Read more

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PQ 1.7 – If I am already in a relationship, does my desire for others come from my dissatisfaction or unhappiness with my current relationship? If I were in a relationship that met my needs, would I still want multiple partners?

"I'm not Needy, I'm Wanty" written in fancy script

If I am already in a relationship, does my desire for others come from my dissatisfaction or unhappiness with my current relationship? If I were in a relationship that met my needs, would I still want multiple partners?

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I addressed this in an earlier essay I wrote called “Needy”  » Read more

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