I Learned a Lot About Reconnecting in Polyamory from BDSM Aftercare
Having great reconnections after an other-date was something that took me to a whole different level re: polyamory. It made everything a lot more fun.
Having great reconnections after an other-date was something that took me to a whole different level re: polyamory. It made everything a lot more fun.
It blows me away sometimes — how much you fixed me by helping me learn to fix things myself. By teaching me I’m much more capable than I thought.
“I’ll admit it,” he says, “I’ve done a lot of things in my life just for the story.”
You can’t make it a requirement that everyone in the world has to be happy before you’re allowed to be. That’s about the best recipe for unhappiness that I’ve ever heard.
I’ve had to come to terms with the reality that I have been taking the wrong advice in one arena.
“I’ll admit I’ve definitely had days where I’ve thought to myself that maybe I don’t want to be brave anymore. Maybe I want someone to take care of me for a bit. Take a season off. Be a sweetly spoiled baby for a change.”
There are moments when I can love like I’ve never been hurt. You do that to me. You bring something out in me, something deep inside. It’s something from the first time I ever fell in love. Back before love hurt or disappointed me.
He’s urging me to be selfish — but everything within me tells me he doesn’t want this. That it’s doomed. And following this suggestion feels like it’ll hurt both of us. So being selfish would be a bad move selfishly here.
It has to be my least favorite kind of moment. Every time it’s ever happened is still seared into my memory, even though it’s been
Some people are more like dogs. They jump and tackle you. Bowl you over with affection. It can be exciting — but sometimes it gets to be a little much.
You, you’re different. You’re warm and intense. Incredibly affectionate. But it’s measured. Meted out. You take your time.
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