Calling

In the year leading up to this past fall, I was frustrated and beaten down by my job, by the way the transcription industry was requiring more work for less pay with each passing year, and how powerless I seemed to do anything about it. Changes in compensation, for example, had placed extreme stress on the last few years of my first marriage –  » Read more

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The Unsung Perks of Remarriage

It’s widely acknowledged that most second marriages end in divorce – and while statistics predict that the majority of first marriages fail, the failure rate for first marriages is barely a majority with the percentage being just over half and the failure rate for second marriages being closer to two-thirds.

Though I ended up marrying Skyspook anyway,  » Read more

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Attachment Styles

I mentioned in my last blog post, “Patient, Forget Thyself,” that the last book I finished, Martin Seligman’s Authentic Happiness, had multiple take-aways. The one I described in that entry was the distinction Seligman makes regarding gratification vs. pleasure and the integral part self-absorption plays in depression.

The other huge take-away for me was an introduction to relationship attachment styles.  » Read more

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EQUAL OPPORTUNITY COMPERVERT – WILL WORK FOR FREE

Though these days I’m only dating 1 fellow, I still get insane amounts of compersion (a.k.a mudita) off watching my polyamorous friends date each other.

At regular intervals, one or another of them will gush to me about a good date, a good conversation, a good fuck they’ve had, whatever, which lights up my chest like the world’s biggest Christmas tree.  » Read more

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Hindsight Bias is a Bitch

“I’ve never loved him because he was perfect. I love him because he’s interesting.”

This is something I remember feeling and expressing about a former love interest, brought up by working on the book. My feelings for him were intense, verging on (and some would say well past) the brink of absurdity.

That relationship was never even physically “consummated”  » Read more

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