“Talk is cheap.”
“Actions speak louder than words.”
Yeah, yeah, yeah. I know what they say. I know what everyone says.
But me, I like that cheap stuff. I like being told I’m beautiful, interesting, funny. I love when a lover digs my mind and body — and most important, » Read more
Her new relationship is a nightmare. An unmitigated nightmare.
She’s been single for a long time, so there’s a novelty to having someone there when she needs them — anyone.
Because we live in a culture where it’s far too frequent for couples to all partner off and leave single folks on their own. » Read more
For a very long time, I’ve been extremely irritated by a phenomenon I call the “False Correction”
What is the False Correction? It’s pretty simple. It’s when someone acts like you’re wrong and they’re correcting you about something, but they’re just being more specific than you were. And the general thing you said was true. » Read more
Today’s article is a guest post by frequent Poly.Land contributor, Fluffy (bio and links to their other work below, following this piece). Enjoy!
The Tyranny of Value
Mental Accounting Ain’t so Easy
It can be very easy to start tallying the tasks, the permissions, the debts, the loans, and so on in any relationships. » Read more
It’s a blessing — and a curse — to be satisfied with so little.
A blessing because it makes it relatively easy for me to be happy. I can thrive in environments that other people would suffer in. When I was taking medical classes back in the day, I used to joke that I was basically Helicobacter pylori. » Read more
You can do a lot with words, that’s for sure, but they’re not enough. No matter how hard you try to be careful about what you say, no matter how carefully you select your words, it’s so easy for them to hit the person you’re talking to the wrong way.
For them to be misinterpreted. » Read more
I’ve known so many people over the years who really seem to all believe one thing: As long as you don’t complain about something aloud, you aren’t really upset about it. And because you’re not really upset about it, nothing will happen.
And most importantly, they won’t have to deal with the fact that you were upset. » Read more
It is always happening whenever I talk to my mother.
She’ll say something petty and ungrateful. Someone will have done something nice for her. Something that was clearly well intended. Came from a good place. But because the gesture wasn’t perfect, wasn’t what she would have envisioned in the best of all possible worlds, » Read more
“I liked your piece about testing self-beliefs instead of accepting or rejecting them outright,” she says.
“Thanks,” I say. “It’s something that’s always been hard for me to articulate, but it was really the only way to move through my divorce without steering off too hard in either direction. I had to learn moderation more intentionally; » Read more
I used to be a big believer in a cardinal relationship rule: Never go to bed angry.
The idea of this was that if you get into a relationship argument, no matter the time of day, you should resolve your disagreement before you and your loved one retire for the night.
Depending on the time of day, » Read more