I’m always staring at Skyspook. But I can’t really help it.
It’s his eyes that are the main issue. His eyes are so beautiful they look illustrated. That crispness and shadow you get from charcoal. And so warm.
But when I look at him for more than a half second, he always looks away. » Read more
Quartz recently published a piece called “Turns out open relationships aren’t the most sexually satisfying.”
As Cassie Werber writes in the article:
Opening up a relationship can be about more than sex. Advocates talk about the deep trust forged by letting one’s partner have other relationships, » Read more
PQ 8.6 — Do I think that if my partner falls in love with another person, he will leave me for that person?
When I was in school, a lot of my classmates loved multiple choice exams.
I was that student who wouldn’t just pick an answer. » Read more
A reader made an excellent observation about my earlier piece “How to Know if You’re Selfish.”
I’m looking at your criterion for selfishness at the end and, to be honest, it feels incomplete.
Specifically, it leaves a very important case unclear: What if someone offers you something (that you didn’t ask for), » Read more
The knowledge of yourself will preserve you from vanity.
-Miguel de Cervantes
When I was in high school, I used to sit and draw pictures of my hands in various positions. I spent hours staring at them, the distance between digits. Especially in AP History. Our teacher was the high school football coach, » Read more
I recently stumbled across a post over at Esther Perel’s blog called “Relationship accountability and the rise of ghosting.” Post author Lindsay addresses consequences of the trend towards ambiguous entanglement and indirect and prolonged breakups and argues for more direct breakups, which they dub “power parting.”
It’s a good article with valid points and includes this chart that helpfully organizes the concepts. » Read more
I Am Not Your Wife
“I called off my date,” he said.
“You did what?” I asked, confused.
“It seemed like what you wanted,” he said.
“It’s not,” I said.
“All I was saying was that I was uncomfortable. Because you asked me how I felt. » Read more
PQ. 8.5 — Do I believe that if I am not jealous, I don’t really love my partner?
“All this work on unlearning jealousy and becoming emotionally secure is all fine and good,” she says. “But don’t you miss your partner getting jealous?”
I cock my head. » Read more
It’s a common rule that a lot of people have when they open up their relationships: No friends.
It’s likely one of those carryovers from traditional dating wisdom. Don’t date friends because most relationships break up, and if you break up with someone, you’re likely to ruin the friendship.
But my dirty secret: I nearly always date friends. » Read more
I am a long-term recovering people pleaser. Growing up in a house with difficult family members, I learned quite young to set aside my own wants and needs for others.
This pattern followed me into my adult relationships. I shoved aside what I wanted and focused on what my partner needed. » Read more