It’s a standard piece of dating advice: “Be friends first.”
But it’s not automatically true just because people say it a lot.
Until rather recently I never followed this advice. I thought it inadvisable to be friends first. Maybe even a bit stupid. If I’m physically attracted to someone, why wait to explore that connection? » Read more
On its face, Masterchef Junior is a lot like other reality TV cooking competitions. Cooks are pitted against each other week to week as they face various wildly improbable challenges. Something like cooking for the client from Hell, armed only with canned mushrooms.
Making pasta from scratch within a ridiculous time limit.
That kind of thing. » Read more
I love to work, I love to work, I love to work out after work.
I’d love to spend a little time with this woman I’m seeing,
Except, uh, we never really get any time to spend together,
So, we call each other up, and we talk about work.
-lyrics from “Stress,” » Read more
“My partner is a reflection of me,” she said.
“What he does,” she continued. “Who he chooses to spend time with.”
“And your metamour?” I said.
“She’s not someone I’d have chosen for him. Not someone I’d choose for myself. Do you know what I mean?” » Read more
“Polyamory?” I’m sometimes asked. “Isn’t that a lot of hard work?”
And the poly honor student answer goes a little something like this: “Of course it is! But it’s well worth the effort.”
But I’m not much of an honor student. And the truth is? The way I’ve learned to approach polyamory, » Read more
The geese are extra territorial at the zoo. “Must be mating season,” I say.
Skyspook nods. “The start of it anyway.”
A cacophony of honks explodes in the air. Jockeying for mates.
There are so many ducks on the water. Most of them are acting up, just like the geese. » Read more
“Conflict is inevitable, but combat is optional.”
As I wrote in a previous post, there are worse things than conflict, including perpetually running away from one you need to address. One commenter on that piece made a great observation: “Honesty and conflict resolution are so much easier in theory than in practice.” » Read more
Harassing a Friend to Write Guest Blog Posts, Like Always
“Love the site,” she says.
Thanks.” I smile. “You should write a guest blog post for us.”
“You’d add a lot. I bet people would like your perspective,” I say.
“I could never do that.” » Read more
PQ 5.10 — How do I evaluate my choices when the effects of my actions are impossible to predict?
I hate to break it to you, but those times when the effects of your actions are impossible to predict?
That’s nearly 100% of the time. Especially when it comes to interpersonal interactions. » Read more