Attachment Styles

I mentioned in my last blog post, “Patient, Forget Thyself,” that the last book I finished, Martin Seligman’s Authentic Happiness, had multiple take-aways. The one I described in that entry was the distinction Seligman makes regarding gratification vs. pleasure and the integral part self-absorption plays in depression.

The other huge take-away for me was an introduction to relationship attachment styles.  » Read more

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Voluntary Enslavement, i.e., Proxy Control

I was reading an interesting text today by E. Tory Higgins, Beyond Pleasure and Pain: How Motivation Works, when I stumbled across one of the most cogent cases for the benefits of voluntary enslavement as a small part of a logical case Higgins builds of value, truth, and control being at the very least equally powerful motivators to human beings as pain and pleasure:

“Your sense of control is also sustained if you choose to have someone else make a choice for you.  » Read more

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Consensus as Illusory Evidence

Lately, I’ve been rolling around the concepts of dishonesty vs.  an incomplete (or even merely representational) model – or similarly, inaccuracy as distinguished from explicit deception.

These are the stones that my brain tumbles in a constant attempt to smooth them.

I addressed this earlier within the framework of the popular logical problem in my essay,  » Read more

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Being Taken Seriously

I had my final appointment with my counselor last week, subsequent to which she proudly announced, “You’ve graduated from therapy!” It was a great session. We talked about my plans for the future, getting a Ph.D. in psychology. She told me she could totally see me doing that and that I’d do great, advised me to consider teaching as at least part of my professional life,  » Read more

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Immersion

This will probably not read like a normal one of my writings because I am too excited to take the time to actually sort through and collect my thoughts and make sure they sound how I like them to, as I’m wont to. I’m a stickler for a style of prosody that I’ve grown to employ,   » Read more

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