PQ 16.3 — What does fairness mean to me? How does this affect the way I make choices and interact with my partners?

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PQ 16.3 — What does fairness mean to me? How does this affect the way I make choices and interact with my partners?

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Something important I had to learn a while back: While some people may use them interchangeably, fair and equal are different things.

Parents run into this all the time when parenting multiple children.  » Read more

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PQ 16.1 — When my partners have competing desires, how well do I express what I need? Do I make sure my own desires aren’t lost in the shuffle?

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PQ 16.1 — When my partners have competing desires, how well do I express what I need? Do I make sure my own desires aren’t lost in the shuffle?

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There’s a certain kind of story I grew up believing: No sacrifice was too great for love. In fact, my own personal picture of love required a large sacrifice.  » Read more

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PQ 15.5 — How do I define “commitment”? Do my definitions leave room for nontraditional commitments and nontraditional relationship trajectories?

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PQ 15.5 — How do I define “commitment”? Do my definitions leave room for nontraditional commitments and nontraditional relationship trajectories?

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Here is a good example of commitment, drawn from an earlier piece:

I walked a mile in the bitter cold to get him DayQuil while he was buried up to his neck in covers,  » Read more

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PQ 14.10 — Is this agreement serving the people involved, or are the people serving it?

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PQ 14.10 — Is this agreement serving the people involved, or are the people serving it?

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He’s just gotten done telling me about his relationship agreement. Complaining, really. About what he doesn’t like about it. And there’s a lot.

“I get where you’re coming from,” I say. “Have you talked to your partners about changing your relationship agreement?”  » Read more

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