PQ 10.7 — Are my rules equally binding on everyone they affect, or do they create a double standard?

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PQ 10.7 — Are my rules equally binding on everyone they affect, or do they create a double standard?

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While everyone is going to have different needs, when creating a relationship agreement, it’s important not to place restrictions on others that you wouldn’t want placed on yourself.  » Read more

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PQ 10.5 — What happens if the agreement doesn’t work for my partners, or my partners’ partners?

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PQ 10.5 — What happens if the agreement doesn’t work for my partners, or my partners’ partners?

“If Your Calendar Shows That You’re Available, I Expect You to Be Here”

“I looked at your calendar. There wasn’t anything on it,” Michelle said.

“Ah,” I said, not sure where she was going.  » Read more

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PQ 10.4 — How is the agreement negotiated, and under what circumstances can it be renegotiated?

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PQ 10.4 — How is the agreement negotiated, and under what circumstances can it be renegotiated?

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As I’ve mentioned in earlier posts, there isn’t just one right way to form a polyamorous relationship agreement.

Bottom line: It’s about finding what works.

But there are some elements that successful relationship agreement negotiations tend to share.  » Read more

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PQ 9.14 — Am I treated as an adjunct to, or an extension of, my partner’s other relationships, rather than as a person in my own right?

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PQ 9.14 — Am I treated as an adjunct to, or an extension of, my partner’s other relationships, rather than as a person in my own right?

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“You said you were going to leave her tonight.”

“Oh, you know how it is, babe. I have a lot going on at work,  » Read more

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