PQ 9.6 — Are decisions about my actions or access to my body being made without my involvement or consent?

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PQ 9.6 — Are decisions about my actions or access to my body being made without my involvement or consent?

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Submitting to Ganon

My earliest fantasies were all about pleasing someone else.

It didn’t matter so much who they were. They were nebulous, dark, selfish. Like the shadowy figure of Ganon on the Zelda 2 Game Over screen.  » Read more

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PQ 9.5 — Is someone threatening my well-being, safety or livelihood?

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PQ 9.5 — Is someone threatening my well-being, safety or livelihood?

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Threatening well-being, safety or livelihood? That sounds fairly extreme now, doesn’t it?

And yet — as in PQ 9.1, it’s important to note that sometimes these threats onset in rather insidious ways. That’s the tricky thing about abusive relationships.  » Read more

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PQ 9.1 — Is my partner asking me to give up control of my autonomy, my body or my emotions?

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PQ 9.1 — Is my partner asking me to give up control of my autonomy, my body or my emotions?

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My autonomy? My body? My emotions? Oh good lord no, PQ 9.1! I’d be making a call around to my friends to get my ass out of that situation. There are at least 3 dozen Lifetime movies implied by this question.  » Read more

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PQ 8.9 — Do I believe that other people are willing to do sexual things that I’m not willing to do, and therefore my partner will like having sex with them better?

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PQ 8.9 — Do I believe that other people are willing to do sexual things that I’m not willing to do, and therefore my partner will like having sex with them better?

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Not willing?

No, nothing like that.

I know this may be different for a lot of people.  » Read more

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PQ 8.8 — More Glue, Please! Sex, Intimacy, and Reinforcing a Relationship Through Collateral Attachment

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PQ 8.8 — Is sex the glue that holds our relationship together? If my partner has sex with someone else, do I think the relationship will come unglued?

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As I mentioned before, I’m hypersexual. And a large part of my personal development re: relationships has been learning to control my libido.  » Read more

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