Polyamory
Crushing on People in Monogamous Relationships: The Cacti of Tantalus
The Cacti of Tantalus A few years ago, I took a trip out West and saw a cactus growing in the wild for the first
September 1, 2017
Category: Polyamory/Monogamy
![3 post it notes stuck to what seems to be a transparent break room fridge. the notes read starting at the top and moving clockwise: 1) Do not remove secrets 2) I remove secrets 3) Do not remove secrets! The sighn [sic] on the side is wrong.](https://poly.land/wp-content/uploads/2017/05/i-remove-secrets-300x225.jpg)
Advice Friend
Ask Page: I Was Sure I Was Mono, Now I Think I’m Poly. Should I Tell My Dom?
I’ve been doing a lot of reading over the last few months, including lots of your writings, and the more I read on the topic of
May 6, 2017
Poly 101
What’s Mono/Poly?: A Basic Introduction
I really enjoyed your recent post on viewing monogamy and polyamory as a spectrum. It made me realize I don’t know a lot about mono/poly.
April 26, 2017
Ambiamory
To Make Mono/Poly Easier, View Monogamy and Polyamory as a Spectrum, Not a Binary
Mono/poly relationships (i.e., pairings in which one partner is monogamous and the other is polyamorous) are famously difficult. While there are many factors, we do
April 17, 2017
Lists
9 Things Polyamorists Can Learn From Monogamy
Last week we published “9 Things Monogamists Can Learn From Polyamory.” In that piece, we stated that both monogamy and polyamory have benefits. And that
April 12, 2017
Polyamory
Monogamy or Polyamory: Feeling Special as an Only Child or in a Big Family
Most people who haven’t been polyamorous assume it’s difficult because you have learn to share your partner. And while this is true for many people,
April 11, 2017
Lists
9 Things Monogamists Can Learn From Polyamory
As polyamory increases in popularity and new evidence emerges that non-monogamy can be a viable and satisfying way to conduct relationships, it’s tempting to pit
April 6, 2017
Polyamory
Yes, Poly People Are Insecure…Because They’re People
The task we must set for ourselves is not to feel secure, but to be able to tolerate insecurity. –Erich Fromm * “Never took you
April 5, 2017
Advice Friend
Ask Page: Dead Bedrooms, No Win-Win?
Page, in your post on conflict resolution styles you forgot one thing about Collaborating. In my opinion: There’s not always a win-win solution. Like. I
February 28, 2017
Polyamory
PQ 5.7 — Are the choices I make in alignment with these values?
PQ 5.7 — Are the choices I make in alignment with these values [the values that are most important in myself and others]? * For
February 16, 2017
