“Umm…,” a reader writes. “I read your article from August 5, and I’m super confused. Are you saying that everyone has to be polyamorous?”
One major thing I’ve learned is that there’s a huge difference between actively and passively closing a relationship. Of the two, active closings typically cause a lot more collateral damage.
“I’m not sure how to tell him about this,” she says, “What do I say? I like open relationships, just not sure if I can have a healthy one with you?”
I know tons of people who have opened up from a closed relationship and thrived. But usually they’re both on board with the decision. It’s a bad sign when one person pressures the other person to open up. Particularly after their partner says no once, twice, or a thousand times when asked.
“I’m a Polyamorous Person Who Keeps Compromising by Having Monogamous Relationships & Feeling Bad. Why?”
I’m a polyamorous person that keeps ending up in relationships with monogamous people. Then I compromise and feel wrong, unseen, miserable, and wish to stay
This has been an awfully strange year for me. Since the middle of March, I’ve seen no one else in person aside from my live-in partner
I’ve written about it many times, but I’m very different from a lot of people who write prominently about consensual non-monogamy. Probably the most striking
“What I’ve always liked about you,” she tells me, “is that you’re not one of those people who whip out your rah rah polyamory pom