Polyamory Toolbox: The Good Roommate Standard

2 long-haired black and white cats sitting on a sofa. the one on the left looks sleepy/satisfied, the one on the right is staring straight ahead, with a curious expression on its face
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When I opened up a relationship that had been monogamous for 8 years, I was prepared to feel jealous. But what I wasn’t prepared for? The radical shift in my thinking about that relationship. We both became much more autonomous. And it was a large adjustment getting used to our increased autonomy.

Prior to discovering polyamory,  » Read more

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Polyamory Toolbox: Wearing the Friend Hat

2 plastic toy people who appears to be friends. Both are wearing hats and scarves. They are positioned so that they seem to be in mid-conversation with one another.
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Part of what can feel daunting when trying to navigate polyamorous relationships is how few cultural models we have for a lot of what happens.

How are we supposed to act when we’re sharing a romantic partner with others? And how should we interact with our metamours (i.e., our partner’s other partners)?

Popular depictions of love triangles are profoundly unhelpful.  » Read more

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