One thing that is plainly obvious in Poly.Land is that there are certain people who date more than others. Their dance card is fully booked. They meet a new cluster of friends and are suddenly dating two-thirds of them. We call these folks poly hinges.
Technically speaking, a “hinge” is someone who is involved with 2 people who are not involved with each other. » Read more
I’m so ridiculously excited right now! Why am I so excited? I just signed up to go to Beyond the Love 2016 in Columbus, Ohio. Beyond the Love is a 3-day polyamory conference (this year being held November 11-13) hosted by some of my favorite poly personalities.
Their speaker list is NO joke. » Read more
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“Be patient toward all that is unsolved in your heart and try to love the questions themselves, like locked rooms and like books that are now written in a very foreign tongue. Do not now seek the answers, which cannot be given you because you would not be able to live them. » Read more
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Because “flexible” doesn’t even begin to cover it. Because I don’t know that I’m even “looking for” anything. There’s no grand objective, no artifact I’m seeking, no burning need I ache to fill. The grail is not my quest. » Read more
It’s a familiar story – you start a new job. You’re nervous at first because you don’t know how you’re going to master everything they throw your way, but you put in effort, work hard, and persevere. It’s a struggle, but eventually you’ve got the hang of it. It may have felt like forever to you – but everyone’s so impressed by how quickly you picked it up and how well you’re doing. » Read more
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If you love a flower, don’t pick it up.
Because if you pick it up it dies and it ceases to be what you love.
So if you love a flower, let it be.
Love is not about possession. » Read more
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“Page, I don’t know what to do,” he said. “I’m in this fantastic relationship with a good old-fashioned girl.”
“This doesn’t sound like a problem,” I said, smirking.
“It wasn’t. Until I met this other girl. She’s amazing.” » Read more
I need your advice. I could not ask any of my friends. People are ready to judge.
I have a girlfriend. We have been together for 4 years . We are going to get married next summer. I love her more than anything, but sexually I REALLY want to watch her while having sex with a random guy and to have an MFM threesome with her. » Read more
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I am open to whatever configuration makes the most sense logistically and given the personalities of all involved.
It seems like folly to decide what structure I’m going to build without first having the component parts in hand.
Besides, every time I have tried to come up with some kind of tentative plan, » Read more
“I don’t know why I get so jealous,” she said. “I’ve been poly for years, and this has never happened to me, with anyone.”
Her face had suddenly grown quite serious. She’d just finished a story of a former partner she had worked so hard for, putting up with his shortcomings, rearranging her life. » Read more