A Joke About the Difference Between Polyamorous Primary, Secondary, and Tertiary Relationships

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There’s a joke that goes a little something like this:

Q: What’s the difference between polyamorous primary, secondary, and tertiary relationships?

A: When you move, your primary says, “When are we leaving?”

Your secondary says, “When am I visiting?”

Your tertiary says, “It was nice knowing you.”  » Read more

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This Eternal Flame: Exes, Wasbands, Duramours, and Formers That You Still Hold in High Regard

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Two of my friends are forever being asked if they are dating. They aren’t. But they did once. It didn’t work out, mostly because what they want out of romantic relationships really isn’t compatible. They tried to make it work, but it just didn’t. They couldn’t change enough to each be happy dating the other.  » Read more

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The Relief of Finally Being Visibly and Actively Biromantic

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As I wrote in an earlier piece, while I didn’t practice polyamory until the last decade or so, I’ve been bisexual for as long as I can remember. And as such, I’m no stranger to bisexual erasure. It’s been a constant companion no matter where I go.

Bisexual erasure involves basically any attempt to invalidate bisexuality as a real sexual identity,  » Read more

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