PQ 8.4 — Do I feel that most other people are sexier, more good-looking, more worthwhile, funnier, smarter or just generally better than I am, and I am not able to compete with them?

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PQ 8.4 — Do I feel that most other people are sexier, more good-looking, more worthwhile, funnier, smarter or just generally better than I am, and I am not able to compete with them?

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Why hello there, Ghost of Christmas Past.

I’ve been on a lifelong quest to prove to myself that I was good enough.  » Read more

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PQ 8.3 — Does the idea of my partner having another lover mean that whatever my partner sees in me will no longer be valid, or that my partner will want to choose that other lover over me?

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PQ 8.3 — Does the idea of my partner having another lover mean that whatever my partner sees in me will no longer be valid, or that my partner will want to choose that other lover over me?

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When I was brand new to poly, I spent hours reading other polyamorous people say that love was infinite.  » Read more

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Jealousy Shaming, Gatekeeping, and Honor Students: No, Really. Please Be Jealous. I Mean It.

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Jealousy Shamed

One of the more surreal aspects of blogging to a wide audience is reading other people’s takes on the personal experiences you’ve shared with them. You get used to it quickly, or you don’t last. I find that even more challenging perspectives can be helpful if I can resist the urge to get defensive.  » Read more

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