Mister Rogers was a very big part of my childhood. He was a gentle, loving presence on television that reminded there were people in the world who were wholesome and truly cared about others, even if they seemed like they were in awfully short supply in my own life.
Even now, 15 years after his death, » Read more
Codependence is an overused term implying that normal partner interdependence is somehow dysfunctional.
The concept and terminology came out of the Alcoholics Anonymous movement; the addicted were seen as trapped in a web of dependency with others (their enablers, or codependents) who made excuses for and assisted the addicts in avoiding the consequences of their addiction, » Read more
“You’re polyamorous?” she says.
“Yes,” I say. “Does that surprise you?”
“Sorta,” she says. “It’s just… I never thought of you as someone with a fear of commitment.”
“What?” she asks me.
“I mean this with all the love in the world,” I say, » Read more
Is it common to not want to know anything at all about your partner’s partners? My sweetie often wants to know the details of my other relationships. This is fine, and I don’t mind, but I really don’t want to know about theirs.
Kitchen Table Versus Parallel Polyamory
How much contact you want with your metamours (a word that polyamorous people often use to describe their partner’s other partners) is something that polyamorous people do vary on. » Read more
I’ve been reading your blog for quite some time now, I find it super helpful. I have a question…you and Justin have a power exchange relationship, right? How does the fact that he owns you affect your other relationships? I’m in a similar situation and am curious how others handle it.
This is a great question! » Read more
Page, are you awake? the IM reads.
I only opened the message window because it was flashing at me. I had been about to go to bed, but now the software marks it as read. And it’s someone I don’t hear from often.
Yeah, I’m here, » Read more
Hi Page, I read that you’re a gamer and one of your projects is a PC game that revolves around polyamory. That sounds exciting, but I can’t wait for that. Do you know of any games that are currently out that are inclusive of polyamory or at least let you date multiple people at once? » Read more
Often when people talk about polyamory, they focus on a few, very specific problems. In particular, “How do you deal with the jealousy?” gets a lot of attention (please see this post for that answer). And it’s true that for many people, the hardest task of the first year or two of polyamory is learning how to become more emotionally secure and essentially becoming a better emotional parent to yourself (work which happily can translate to all negative emotions and not simply jealousy). » Read more
I adore my husband. He loves and supports me so much that it humbles me. He’s raised my standards for what I believed was possible in love and relationships.
And perhaps the most amazing part of the whole experience of finding him is this: I probably wouldn’t have dated him when I was monogamous. » Read more
I’ve been poly for about 6 months. I recently met a new partner. He has another partner (and so do I). Anyway, he asked me to get testing for STIs before we sleep together. I was so offended! Why would he do that? A big part of poly for me has been accepting myself as a sexual being. » Read more