It is not always by plugging away at a difficulty and sticking to it that one overcomes it; often it is by working on the one next to it. Some things and some people have to be approached obliquely, at an angle.
Closing the Loop
“And this will be the third time I’ve mentioned him,” » Read more
People Who Will Dance vs. People Who Won’t
Binaries are funny. As we work towards a more diverse, inclusive culture, they’ve fallen out of favor. And it’s easy to see why. Trying to stuff everybody into one of two categories? Well, it’s rarely a perfect fit.
But cognitively? Binaries are a very tidy way to sort information. » Read more
They make it easy for you when you’re a patient. Everything’s broken down into bite-sized pieces.
They tell you what to do. When to do it. And none of it is very hard. Laying a trail of breadcrumbs before you. You only have to follow.
“Take everything off and put on this gown,” » Read more
PQ 5.8 — Who are my mirrors? Whom do I rely on to call me on my mistakes?
It was the world’s tackiest wedding RSVP.
She’d RSVP’ed no of course. And that was no big deal. But it was what she wrote next to it that took things over the top: I do not feel it’s appropriate to publicly witness, » Read more
PQ 5.6 — What values are the most important to me in myself and in others?
Like a lot of people, I have multiple important values that mean a lot to me. But for years, I’ve been envious of people who could distill their top value into a single word. Working in organizational development, I run into this a lot, » Read more
“Bam, right in the face, k’boom, drop the mic, fuck off, bitch!”
The Perverted Podcast in Los Angeles discussed our post “Atheism and Poly: What’s Stopping You?” on their show (from 28:27 to 38:11).
We’re very glad to hear that our post prompted such a good discussion. » Read more
On those days when I’m struggling with my latest challenge as a poly person, I can sure count on monogamous people to remind me how different things are out here in Poly.Land. This is especially true when it comes to threesomes and happened with Reddit a little while ago.
My latest reminder was reading Jezebel’s “Amber Rose Had Her First Threesome and Totally Hated It.” » Read more
When I read More Than Two: A Practical Guide to Ethical Polyamory by Franklin Veaux and Eve Rickert, I found the end of chapter polyamory questions particularly thought-provoking. It occurred to me that I could probably write an essay for the blog on each one.
That is precisely what I aim to do. » Read more
Last week was pretty excellent. Beginning of the week, we spent one evening hang/cuddle/flirting with our super rad lesbian couple friends. And then since Spooky was out of town for a few days at a conference, I managed some quality alone/cat time before going out to a bar with a friend that I hadn’t seen for some time and was able to meet new people that she knows. » Read more
“What do you think? Do you want to get together?”
“Sure, that sounds great.”
Schedules are coordinated, the time is set, logistics set. Your place, theirs? Who’s driving? Going out or staying in or both?
Aaaaaaand we’re good.
Except it’s unclear whether it’s a hangout or a date. » Read more