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A core principle in the field of ergonomics is that a workstation should be designed with the user’s comfort in mind. The tools are laid out to serve the body. When we contort our bodies in an effort to match up with poorly aligned tools, productivity suffers. And repetitive strain injuries can follow.
When I worked for a large hospital system, » Read more
PQ 8.1 — Am I worried that if someone “better” comes along, my partner will realize I’m not good enough and want to replace me?
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Winning isn’t everything; it’s the only thing.
-Vince Lombardi
I wish to hell I’d never said the damned thing. I meant having a goal…I sure as hell didn’t mean for people to crush human values and morality. » Read more
It’s not easy being a kid. Kids have all the emotions that adults have, but they’re yet to figure out coping skills. Especially the little ones.
They act on their emotions rather than dealing with them. Excessive stress leads to behavioral problems.
However, in some ways, I admire their lack of emotional regulation. » Read more
I glance at my phone. I’m loving the book.
I smile. It’s a message from one of the beta readers for the book I’m putting out soon (slated for early/mid May).
When we set up the beta, we structured it so that readers could give feedback to Skyspook, » Read more
“There are moments, such as the one that oppresses me now, when I feel my own self far more than I feel external things, and everything transforms into a night of rain and mud where, lost in the solitude of an out-of-the-way station, I wait interminably for the next third-class train.”
-Fernando Pessoa, » Read more
“I’m so scared, Page,” he says to me.
“Oh?”
“I feel like she’s avoiding me. She says everything’s okay. And I want to believe her, but…”
“But?’
He sighs. “It’s not like her at all. And she just started dating another guy.”
“Don’t listen to Martin! » Read more
“Staying vulnerable is a risk we have to take if we want to experience connection.”
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The hardest part of the recent political climate has been the need to toughen up without hardening on the inside. Like a hard candy. But the kind with a creamy center. » Read more
Saturday morning. Slept in. But I’m still exhausted from another long week at work.
It’s all conflict all the time now there. Between my coworkers, the mediation, the hearing people out.
The fear. The lack of insight. From everyone. And I’m sure there’s stuff I’m not seeing, as tempting as it is to judge everyone. » Read more
Anxiety Is Just Trying to Do Its Job
For many of us, anxiety has been a constant companion. This isn’t just limited to people who have been diagnosed with formal anxiety disorders. Fear is an onboard feature in the human psyche, a nervous system reaction that guards our survival. Our caveman brains are wired to run from predators. » Read more
“Why are you here today?” the therapist asked me.
I stared into the cup of tea in my hands. Three people at the counseling center had asked me if I wanted something to drink, and by the third ask, I was starting to feel extremely rude turning them down. But truth was I didn’t want it. » Read more
