12 Things to Do When Your Long-Distance Partner Moves in With You

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When talking about long-distance relationships, most of them fall into one of two buckets:

  • Relationships that are always expected to be long distance.
  • Relationships in which one person is eventually going to move to be closer to the other.

Occasionally, a third type emerges: One in which both parties move and settle in a different location together.  » Read more

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Love is a Fire, Baby; Six Metaphors for Relationships

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Today’s piece is a guest blog post from Fluffy, an academic in-training, who is studying organizational behavior in hopes of making the world a better place.

Fluffy is a frequent contributor to Poly Land. Their regular blog is Eclectic Discourse (where pith goes to die; in-depth looks at awkward topics).

Here’s what they wrote for us today:  » Read more

Love is a Fire,

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12 More Reasons Why People Say They Want to Break Up With Someone But Never Do

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I recently published an article called “Why Do Some People Say They Want to Break Up With Someone For a Long Time & Then Never Do It?

In that essay, I talked about some reasons I’d heard from others or seen in action that could be potential answers to that question:

    • A fear of change
    • A fear of being single and/or having to date again (i.e.,
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3 Reasons Why I Prefer to Call It Consensual Non-Monogamy

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Hi Page,

I’ve heard a lot of people talk about ethical non-monogamy as a way of describing polyamory and other forms of open relationships. I’ve noticed you don’t do that. Instead, you say “consensual non-monogamy.” Why? 

1. Ethics are subjective.

ethical (adjective) – relating to moral principles or the branch of knowledge dealing with these,  » Read more

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7 Ways to Support People Who Are Estranged From Their Families Over the Holidays

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Hi Page, I enjoyed your open letter to your mother. I don’t have a difficult relationship with my own parents, so it was very eye opening to me. I do have friends whose situation is similar to yours though. The holidays are coming up soon, and I’ve heard that they can be a tough time for people estranged from their families.  » Read more

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What’s the Worst Thing About Polyamory? Four Takes

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It’s probably no surprise, but I think polyamory and other forms of consensual non-monogamy can be downright awesome.

That said, every good thing has downsides. For this article, I had conversations with four different folks who are all happily polyamorous asking the following question: What’s the worst thing about polyamory?

Here’s how it went:

Take 1: There’s a Potential For More Let Downs

“Sometimes I feel like dating multiple people is an opportunity to let more people down at once,”  » Read more

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10 Times Gandalf Gave Excellent Relationship Advice

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Ahhhh, Gandalf…

Tolkien’s chief wizard is emotional, wise, and powerful. Although aloof and at times a little arrogant, Gandalf possesses a deep insight and knowledge about the people around him. Magic isn’t the only thing he’s a wizard at. He’s superb at time management and work-life balance, having the emotional bandwidth to do things like tell gigantic flaming demons they cannot pass (seriously,  » Read more

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