What is the difference between a dominant and someone who just uses it as an excuse to be controlling?
1. Consent Is an Important Part of Dominance.
The bottom line is very simple: It boils down to consent.
A healthy D/s relationship happens between two people who are willing participants. » Read more
My husband and I are polyamorous. With my husband, Brett† , I co-parent, co-habitate, share finances, own businesses together. With one of my boyfriends, Dale† , I have a newish D/s dynamic that mimics some aspects of a Daddy Dom/little girl relationship.
Because the power exchange dynamic with Dale and I evolved from just bedroom play to something more serious, » Read more
I’ll never forget my first public scene with Justin. It was on a busy night at the dungeon. A play party.
“What would you like to do?” he asked me.
I clammed up. “I don’t know,” I said.
“Page,” he said in that voice. His Dom voice, » Read more
I’ve been reading your blog for quite some time now, I find it super helpful. I have a question…you and Justin have a power exchange relationship, right? How does the fact that he owns you affect your other relationships? I’m in a similar situation and am curious how others handle it.
This is a great question! » Read more
“You two have a D/s relationship, right?” the man asks.
I stop in my tracks. Spin around. Look tentatively at my partner Justin.
“Yes,” I reply.
Justin and I are at a conference where we’re presenting together. Grabbing snacks in the hospitality suite at the end of a long day. » Read more
“Ow,” I say. “What the FUCK are you doing?”
He smirks at me.
“I’m not kidding,” I say. “Stop that.”
He pulls away from me. “Pressure point stuff. You like it, don’t you?”
“Not like that I don’t,” I say. “What is wrong with you tonight?” » Read more
I didn’t open up my marriage over a decade ago with an eye toward exploring kink. But that’s nonetheless what happened. After about a year of dating polyamorously, I eventually ended up with a girlfriend who knew some folks in the kink scene and had a strong kinky streak herself.
It was a surprising turn of events at the time. » Read more
I’m watching them from across the room, leaning against the wall. Trying to be as unobtrusive as I can, so that I don’t spoil their energy. I’ve positioned myself so that there’s another scene partially obscuring my view: A woman pressed up against a St. Andrew’s cross, her partner flogging her back in time to the music filtering into the room. » Read more
“Causing Someone Pain Is Never Okay”
“Ow,” he says.
It takes me a second to even hear that he’s said anything. We’re cuddling on his bed, and I’m so cozy and comfy that I’ve half zoned out of reality.
“C’mon, Page, move,” he says. shoving me to the side.
“Oh,” » Read more
“You know, you shouldn’t sell yourself so short,” she says.
“You have a lot to offer. You’re smart. A beautiful girl. I don’t know why you let yourself be overshadowed like that,” she says.
Now I’m confused. I know that I sometimes have a habit of being self-deprecating, » Read more