
I’ll Probably Always Be a People Pleaser, But At Least I’ve Learned to Please the Right Ones
I’ve learned that I count. I’m a person too. I should be on that list.
I’ve learned that I count. I’m a person too. I should be on that list.
It’s easy for me put myself in other people’s shoes. Sometimes — I’d say most of the time — this comes in handy. But other times? Not so much. And it can be tough for me to stay fixed in my own perspective when I need to and to advocate for what I want.
Once upon a time, I not only had a
double standard but practiced a triple standard, whereby I had one set of standards for myself, a second for others, and a third for idealized others, a.k.a., the pedestal.
In today’s essay I’m going to talk about something that will make a lot of sense to recovering people pleasers. It will likely make very
I was a really happy-go-lucky kid. Naturally. But as I grew older, I learned to lean more into this feeling. I took on a willingness
There’s a meme that’s been flying around for some time that talks about how kids who were mistreated will learn to love unwanted things. I
The other day I got a question from a reader in response to my essay on the importance of being around gracious people. This is true
I’m a recovering people pleaser. There’s no getting around it. As I’ve been working on those issues for nearly a decade and have made an
I’m sitting in the midst of yet another week where folks seem hellbent on limboing under my already perilously low expectations. I’ve heard it said
There are lots of important things I was never told about relationships. Not told by popular depictions of course, which are really a strange way
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