Confessions of a Recovering People Pleaser
I’ll Probably Always Be a People Pleaser, But At Least I’ve Learned to Please the Right Ones
I’ve learned that I count. I’m a person too. I should be on that list.
February 21, 2022
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Confessions of a Recovering People Pleaser
When Perspective-Taking Is Too Easy: The Challenge of Staying in Your Own Shoes
It’s easy for me put myself in other people’s shoes. Sometimes — I’d say most of the time — this comes in handy. But other times? Not so much. And it can be tough for me to stay fixed in my own perspective when I need to and to advocate for what I want.
August 9, 2021
Confessions of a Recovering People Pleaser
Three Zones: Self, Other, Idealized Other
Once upon a time, I not only had a
double standard but practiced a triple standard, whereby I had one set of standards for myself, a second for others, and a third for idealized others, a.k.a., the pedestal.
June 27, 2021
Confessions of a Recovering People Pleaser
When Someone Blows Your Entire “Conflict Budget”
In today’s essay I’m going to talk about something that will make a lot of sense to recovering people pleasers. It will likely make very
January 11, 2021
Confessions of a Recovering People Pleaser
Growing Up Trying to Be as Little Hassle as Possible
I was a really happy-go-lucky kid. Naturally. But as I grew older, I learned to lean more into this feeling. I took on a willingness
October 12, 2020
Confessions of a Recovering People Pleaser
I’ve Always Been a Sucker for a Comeback & It Almost Destroyed Me
There’s a meme that’s been flying around for some time that talks about how kids who were mistreated will learn to love unwanted things. I
September 14, 2020
Advice Friend
If You’re Asking Yourself If You’re Being a Doormat, Then the Answer Is Yes
The other day I got a question from a reader in response to my essay on the importance of being around gracious people. This is true
July 7, 2020
Confessions of a Recovering People Pleaser
There Are So Many Transitions That the Transitions Have Transitions
I’m a recovering people pleaser. There’s no getting around it. As I’ve been working on those issues for nearly a decade and have made an
May 31, 2020
Confessions of a Recovering People Pleaser
The Moment When I Realized I Couldn’t Become Impossible to Disappoint
I’m sitting in the midst of yet another week where folks seem hellbent on limboing under my already perilously low expectations. I’ve heard it said
May 19, 2020
Confessions of a Recovering People Pleaser
The Middle Path Between Accepting or Rejecting a Difficult Self-Belief Outright Is Testing It
There are lots of important things I was never told about relationships. Not told by popular depictions of course, which are really a strange way
May 10, 2020
