PQ 4.4 — What do I bring to the table for others?
“The most important things are the hardest to say. They are the things you get ashamed of, because words diminish them — words shrink things that seemed limitless when they were in your head to no more than living size when they’re brought out. » Read more
PQ 3.2 — Have I sought input from everyone affected? Have I obtained their consent where my decision overlaps their personal boundaries? (Chapter 3 questions are all asked in the context of ones to ask to evaluate whether your choices are ethical.)
This is truly one of the trickiest parts of polyamory — » Read more
I Try Smiling
“You get what you expect,” the instructor says.
It’s my first day of community college. We’re sitting in a small room with desks that are at least 30 years old. Mine has vaguely letter-like shapes carved into it. What it says is illegible. It’s a pity, really. I want somewhere to put my eyes because my anxiety is in rare form. » Read more
It’s difficult to know how much to share about what goes on (sexually and otherwise) with one of your partners with another. It’s like titrating the truth, just like you would medicine in a hospital — a truth drip.
On the surface, it seems so easy. But you gotta be careful! You can overdose by saying too much or by saying too little. » Read more
“Love may have to be left off the exam. Most of us will never learn.”
“Do You Really Love Me?”
“Do you really love me?” I ask Skyspook as we careen down the highway.
“Of course,” he replies.
“But what does love MEAN to you?” » Read more
“I need you to come to the office as soon as you can,” my editor said.
“O-o-h okay,” I stammered. After all, the phone call was pretty confusing. Usually he emailed me.
“And bring your tapes,” he said, before hanging up.
I was there within the hour and handed him the cassette tape from my last assignment. » Read more
I need your advice. I could not ask any of my friends. People are ready to judge.
I have a girlfriend. We have been together for 4 years . We are going to get married next summer. I love her more than anything, but sexually I REALLY want to watch her while having sex with a random guy and to have an MFM threesome with her. » Read more
We all mess up from time to time. We’re human. And it can be especially hard getting called out when we make a mistake, doubly so when it’s by someone we care about. But if we do hurt someone we’re close to, it’s good for them to tell us so we can do better.
Except sometimes the criticism isn’t valid. » Read more
It’s a sad fact of life that we fall apart in front of those we feel safest with.
We keep it together in front of the boss, but when we get home from the office, we break into tears and snap at our love(s) about dinner not being ready. Or it’s their day to fall apart, » Read more
“I should never have used that word,” I said. “The L word. I thought nothing of it, but they totally got the wrong idea.”
“Oh, but it’s YOU!” she said.
“I know,” I agreed.
“Anyone who knows you, well… they know you say that to everybody. There’s a different way that you act when you’re in love with someone. » Read more