Yesterday, I wrote about the fact that both my husband and I are game changers, that we have a tendency to form passionate relationships that are disruptive to existing partnerships, and how terrifying it is to live in the shadow of this.
I forgot something really important though in my consideration of all this. » Read more
“My child, I can live on a good compliment two weeks with nothing else to eat.”
The other night my husband told me that one thing that set me apart from other people when we first met was that I simply didn’t do bullshit. I was nuanced, » Read more
“But aren’t you worried about diseases?”
It’s a very frequent question asked of poly people – and a very natural one. I know it’s the first one I asked when polyamory was presented to me as a relationship option.
Your standard-issue Poly Honor Student answer goes a little something like this: “Of course we are, » Read more
It seems like I spend 90% of my life struggling with one nuance or another.
The latest has been trying to differentiate between what constitutes “making excuses” vs. “offering an explanation.”
I set this question out to some of my friends. They overwhelmingly stressed that timing was a key factor (people need a while to cool down and get out of the hotly negative feeling place), » Read more
My old therapist used to say, “You’re 100% responsible… for your 50%.”
I saw her primarily to get through my divorce. It was a brutal time for me, coping with the promise that I’d broken to myself, that I’d always be with Seth, through everything. The timing of the separation was also unfortunate, » Read more