The Problem with “You’re Just Jealous” as a Conversation Ender

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“I wish you’d just own up to what’s really going on here,” he says.

“What?”

“You don’t really think it’s a bad idea. Admit it,” he says. “You’re just jealous.”

I don’t know what to say. I settle on, “That’s not what this is about.”

Because it’s true I’ve had my insecurities in the past regarding him but not to an unusual magnitude.  » Read more

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What Is Romance? What Makes Hooking Up and Hanging Out Different Than a Relationship?

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If Labels Are for Organization, Then I Guess I’m a Bit of a Mess

“So what are you looking for? Something casual? Dating? A relationship? Something romantic?” she asks me.

And it takes me a long time to formulate an answer to the question. Not because I’m not interested. And not because I don’t care about her.  » Read more

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Kindness Misers: “I’m Always Doing Everything for Everyone Else”

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“I’m always doing everything for everyone else,” she says. “And where does it get me?”

I’m taken aback. I’m not sure where this is coming from. She’s got good qualities, but she’s far from anybody’s whipping boy. If anything, she’s more selfish than most.

“To hell with what they think,” she says,  » Read more

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