My partner recently lost a lot of weight. He’s been trying for years, and I’m genuinely happy for him. He looks great. Problem is that he KNOWS it. I’m all for self-confidence, but he’s downright cocky. Rude. It’s gotten to the point that friends of ours have started to comment on how much he’s changed… » Read more
I read your blog and your book, and I’m hoping you can help me.
I’ve been polyamorous for 2 years. I have a husband. We were married for about 3 years before we opened up. Like you, we were introduced to polyamory because we found out that our friends were polyamorous. » Read more
I’ve been doing a lot of reading over the last few months, including lots of your writings, and the more I read on the topic of poly, the more it has started making sense to me.
When I first joined FetLife and met my Dom, I thought I was 100% monogamous. » Read more
I need your advice. My girlfriend who is not out as kinky or poly with a Christian faith based family is scheduled to have MAJOR surgery. Her family (elderly Mother & two young adult daughters) will be in town for her surgery and recovery for a few weeks. » Read more
I enjoy and follow your writings and the recent one about how to know your partner is jealous and not just inventing a concern reminded me that I’ve been trying to find some info on how to deal with it when a partner is jealous.
More specifically, how do I not have anxious and guilty feelings, » Read more
My wife and I opened our marriage a while ago. Well, opened it at least in theory. We haven’t found anybody yet. Maybe it’s because we live in a conservative area with a lot of religious people, but it’s really been hard finding a woman to date us both (I’m straight, » Read more
Page, in your post on conflict resolution styles you forgot one thing about Collaborating. In my opinion: There’s not always a win-win solution. Like. I don’t think in that situation it automatically becomes Compromising. It’s just a conflict that can’t be resolved in a collaborative way.
It’s one of those drawbacks no one wants to believe is real. » Read more
I’ve never been in this situation before and am not sure quite what to do. Even though I’m not a person who does “casual,” I now have a friend with benefits. Polyamory is about love, so I feel shitty about this.
He has been very clear with me that he doesn’t want to be my boyfriend. » Read more
My girlfriend and I have been together over 3 years. We’ve been through a lot. Big life stuff. We even split up once.
When we got back together this last time, we fought a lot. We’re both manic depressive. But then things got a WHOLE LOT better. We were finally back on track after a lot of anguish. » Read more
Since you’re a big word nerd, I thought you might be able to help me with a couple things.
I know that my partner’s other partner is my metamour. But what should I call my metamour’s other partner? Is there a word? If not, » Read more