How Did I Get Into All This Kinky Shit Anyway?
February 11, 2012
It’s a valid question. Once upon a time I was in a vanilla (i.e., non-kinky) monogamous heterosexual relationship. We met through mutual friends, dated for
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Poly Debriefing #2: More
February 10, 2012
These days I’m polyamorous in spirit, monogamous in practice. It feels disingenuous to claim that I am one or the other completely. Even though my
sub frenzy
February 9, 2012
He sees me outlining the cartoonish bruises on my breast. I hear his laugh and became totally aware of what I’m doing. I must be
Solid
January 15, 2012
That first bite of fried egg hit my tongue and sent my whole mouth into paroxysms of joy. Just a kiss of butter, the white
Poly Debriefing #1: Compersion
January 9, 2012
Photo by em-volleyball-1-6 /CC BY Compersion is so fantastic and ever-present for me (even when I’m sexually exclusive) that it gets to go first, and
Welcome to Fight Club
January 6, 2012
I’ve been wanting to write this essay for a while, stopped and started. Floundered. Because while I feel strongly about the following issue, I find
The Little Clit That Could
December 29, 2011
I remember the first orgasm I ever had for one distinct reason: It terrified me. It was New Year’s Eve ’97, and I was sitting
Better Than a Friend
December 28, 2011
So much work has already been done, sorting out my own head, my feelings, thought patterns, behaviors. And so much lies ahead. Today, a single
Slave Heart
December 22, 2011
May 23, 2011: I’m in the midst of an incredible romance with Skyspook. He keeps doing things for me that I like, taking me places
Domestic Service
December 1, 2011
As I’m sweeping the floor, I find myself thinking of last night, how you grabbed my hair as I sucked you off and thrust until
In the Land of Beautiful Women
November 30, 2011
Growing up, my friends were really good-looking girls, stylish, very popular with the boys. Most of them were rather sexually active because they were desirable,
Discretion/Cowardice?
November 30, 2011
“Before you treat me, I need to make sure you’re comfortable with a few things.” “Such as?” “I’m part of the local kink community. I’m
Loss
November 29, 2011
I am still lost. A traveler here. But I’ve recognized I have no home where I came from, no place to go back to. This
Respect
November 23, 2011
I’ll never forget that night. November 1999, my first semester of college. I had gone to a party hosted by the music frat. I knew
The Power of Words
November 10, 2011
1997 The day after it happens, I go to school with a headache and slivers of memory. There are pieces missing, things I can’t find
It Always Felt Like An Affair
November 4, 2011
And in hindsight, that should have told me something. “She doesn’t have to know how serious we are yet. She just wouldn’t understand.” I thought
About the Other Night
October 31, 2011
The spirit is the energy that moves between us, one to the other. When we struggle, fight, collapse together, we unearth our depths. I am
epiphany of the week
October 20, 2011
I’ve decided that the recipe for unhappiness is requiring other people for your sense of closure.
Sincerity
October 14, 2011
I was at a backyard bonfire party many years ago when I saw a friend vigorously fellate a hot dog. I know. No big deal,
Mono-Flexible
October 7, 2011
This is the term Skyspook came up with to describe myself with regards with monogamy/non-monogamy. I think my natural orientation is for monogamy, the simplicity.
Weighty Matters
October 6, 2011
Dieting has been very much a part of my psyche since I first started going to Weight Watchers meetings at 3 years old. I found
Yes, I’m the Crazy Ex
October 3, 2011
I have a bounty of exes, ex-girlfriends, ex-boyfriends, now even an ex-husband. In short, I’m a lot of people’s crazy ex. I love so hard
I wrote a story
September 8, 2011
Yesterday I did something I haven’t done in a long time. I wrote a short story. Fiction and I haven’t been on speaking terms in
Acceptance is Scary
September 7, 2011
“Thank you,” I gasp, collapsing beside him on the bed. He raises an eyebrow, even though his face is flooded with afterglow. “Thank you.” It
Wish List
September 6, 2011
Our psychological and emotional positions in the sadomasochist realm firmly established, I’d broached the topic of D/s. I wanted to know where we were going.
See You Later, Space Cowboy
August 8, 2011
Cowboy. Somebody who figures that these alternative relationships are unstable, and consciously or unconsciously tries to pull one of the partners off into a monogamous
Us
August 2, 2011
I’ve loved you a season now. Somehow your eyes are growing softer and brighter with time and the colors around us more vibrant. This new
Yes
June 13, 2011
Last night, you told me that prosody was my strong suit and drew a heart in black ink on my shoulder with your good pen
sexual compass
May 30, 2011
Sexual Orientation I am attracted to people in general. I don’t have a preference when it comes to gonads. There is also a wide range
Let me tell you about my new boyfriend Skyspook
May 15, 2011
My new boyfriend has giant hands and smooth, smooth skin. He is an engineer, an inventor, a renaissance man. He is a genius who was
The Question of Promiscuity, OR Ain’t Gonna Shame Ya
February 21, 2011
The stigma of having multiple partners is ubiquitous. It’s especially obvious in “normal” society with the standard tradition of monogamy or at least serial monogamy
Humiliation
February 8, 2011
9 years old Though I am running a fever, I go to a dear friend’s sleepover at her insistence. The conversation turns to my developing
