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Rush Limbaugh

Rush Limbaugh’s comments are offensive to those of us who have worked hard to become the whores we are. He dishes out the label too

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Gourmet Sex

“I don’t get it,” she said. “Why do all that? Sex, just good plain normal sex is wonderful. Why would anyone need to do all

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Abuse

I was in a relationship for many years where whenever I asked for any assistance, albeit with finances, chores, or emotional support, I was told

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Rotten Denmark

There was a story a friend of mine used to tell. When he was in school, his teacher had called the class to attention and

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this sub’s life

J: Pageling, I have something for you. Me: (through the door) I’m naked. J: It’s fine. I’m naked, too. Me: Okay. (opens door) I love

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my diet/cooking blog

So I’ve had a relatively inactive diet and cooking blog for a while that I’ve started using a lot more recently to track some of

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Bad Poly: A Case Study

How does a person who is polyamorous in spirit end up not seeking other partners for a great length of time, essentially becoming monogamous in

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The Move

Me: Sometimes I feel like I’m way out on a branch, and I feel the wind blow, and at any moment the branch could break,

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Sanctuary

The DSM-IV defines a mental disorder as “a clinically significant behavioral or psychological syndrome or pattern that occurs in an individual [which] is associated with

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Silver and Gold

I lost my belief in so many beautiful traditions long ago.   I raised myself on movies of the week and Hallmark moments. As my

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Gaslighting

Gaslighting: A common form of brainwashing in which an abuser tries to falsely convince the victim that the victim is defective, for any purpose whatsoever,

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Choosing

You know it’s going to be an interesting meeting when the first item on the agenda is “Please fist me.” Ok, I’ll rewind. It started

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Regrowing My Claws

Before my explorations in kink with Skyspook, there was another man, Ex-Boyfriend in Cleveland. I met Ex-Boyfriend through a girl I was seeing as he

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Portion Control

“A lot of people run a race to see who is fastest. I run to see who has the most guts, who can punish himself

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One Size Fits All

There was a girl I used to date during my open marriage. One day when we were eating sushi at one of my favorite restaurants,

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Your Kink is Okay

Today’s squick is tomorrow’s kink. Inevitably, I’ll find myself in the same situation. We’ll be at a party discussing sex, a common occurrence as the

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Yay!

A special thanks Dan and dawn over at Erotic Awakening for mentioning my blog and the post “Slave Heart” on their podcast here. Apparently, I

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Accountability

Okay, let’s start off by saying that however agreeable I seem, I am NOT someone who likes teamwork. Here’s an excerpt from a blog I

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Why Write?

Even though I’ve recently set up this public blog presence of my charmed life and kinky times, I’ve been posting introspection and navel-gazing on predominantly

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Discipline

The compound acronym “BDSM” breaks down into B&D, D&S, S&M or bondage and discipline, domination and submission, sadism and masochism. So really it’s BDDSSM –

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A Valentine to Myself

I never loved another person the way I loved myself. Mae West There’s something absolutely terrifying about radical independence. It’s not a message our culture

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Conversion

The brief moment between the swing and the sting of the dressage whip seems to span eons. Sometimes he’s a bastard and swings it so

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Poly Debriefing #2: More

These days I’m polyamorous in spirit, monogamous in practice. It feels disingenuous to claim that I am one or the other completely. Even though my

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sub frenzy

He sees me outlining the cartoonish bruises on my breast. I hear his laugh and became totally aware of what I’m doing. I must be

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Solid

That first bite of fried egg hit my tongue and sent my whole mouth into paroxysms of joy. Just a kiss of butter, the white

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Welcome to Fight Club

I’ve been wanting to write this essay for a while, stopped and started. Floundered. Because while I feel strongly about the following issue, I find

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