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Regrowing My Claws

Before my explorations in kink with Skyspook, there was another man, Ex-Boyfriend in Cleveland. I met Ex-Boyfriend through a girl I was seeing as he

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Portion Control

“A lot of people run a race to see who is fastest. I run to see who has the most guts, who can punish himself

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One Size Fits All

There was a girl I used to date during my open marriage. One day when we were eating sushi at one of my favorite restaurants,

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Your Kink is Okay

Today’s squick is tomorrow’s kink. Inevitably, I’ll find myself in the same situation. We’ll be at a party discussing sex, a common occurrence as the

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Yay!

A special thanks Dan and dawn over at Erotic Awakening for mentioning my blog and the post “Slave Heart” on their podcast here. Apparently, I

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Accountability

Okay, let’s start off by saying that however agreeable I seem, I am NOT someone who likes teamwork. Here’s an excerpt from a blog I

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Why Write?

Even though I’ve recently set up this public blog presence of my charmed life and kinky times, I’ve been posting introspection and navel-gazing on predominantly

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Discipline

The compound acronym “BDSM” breaks down into B&D, D&S, S&M or bondage and discipline, domination and submission, sadism and masochism. So really it’s BDDSSM –

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A Valentine to Myself

I never loved another person the way I loved myself. Mae West There’s something absolutely terrifying about radical independence. It’s not a message our culture

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Conversion

The brief moment between the swing and the sting of the dressage whip seems to span eons. Sometimes he’s a bastard and swings it so

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Poly Debriefing #2: More

These days I’m polyamorous in spirit, monogamous in practice. It feels disingenuous to claim that I am one or the other completely. Even though my

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sub frenzy

He sees me outlining the cartoonish bruises on my breast. I hear his laugh and became totally aware of what I’m doing. I must be

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Solid

That first bite of fried egg hit my tongue and sent my whole mouth into paroxysms of joy. Just a kiss of butter, the white

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Welcome to Fight Club

I’ve been wanting to write this essay for a while, stopped and started. Floundered. Because while I feel strongly about the following issue, I find

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Better Than a Friend

So much work has already been done, sorting out my own head, my feelings, thought patterns, behaviors. And so much lies ahead. Today, a single

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Slave Heart

May 23, 2011: I’m in the midst of an incredible romance with Skyspook. He keeps doing things for me that I like, taking me places

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Domestic Service

As I’m sweeping the floor, I find myself thinking of last night, how you grabbed my hair as I sucked you off and thrust until

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Discretion/Cowardice?

“Before you treat me, I need to make sure you’re comfortable with a few things.” “Such as?” “I’m part of the local kink community. I’m

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Loss

I am still lost. A traveler here. But I’ve recognized I have no home where I came from, no place to go back to. This

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Respect

I’ll never forget that night. November 1999, my first semester of college. I had gone to a party hosted by the music frat. I knew

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The Power of Words

1997 The day after it happens, I go to school with a headache and slivers of memory. There are pieces missing, things I can’t find

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About the Other Night

The spirit is the energy that moves between us, one to the other. When we struggle, fight, collapse together, we unearth our depths. I am

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