What Happened When I Dated Other Folks Who Were Big on Words of Affirmation
February 10, 2021
It may be cliched, seeing as I’m a writer, but there’s no quicker way to my heart than saying the right words. Seriously. If you
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New Site Look, Who Dis?
February 9, 2021
When I started the Poly Land project, I never imagined we’d grow to this size. But we have. And we outgrew our old format — we’re more of a magazine these days, less of an obscure blog. This new format reflects this.
I Always Want More of You & I Used to Take That the Wrong Way
February 8, 2021
Some people are more like dogs. They jump and tackle you. Bowl you over with affection. It can be exciting — but sometimes it gets to be a little much.
You, you’re different. You’re warm and intense. Incredibly affectionate. But it’s measured. Meted out. You take your time.
Practicing Gratitude Can Be as Simple as Finding a Patch of Sunlit Rug
February 7, 2021
Maybe the truth is, there’s a little bit of loser in all of us. Being happy isn’t having everything in your life be perfect. Maybe
Shouldn’t It Be Enough That I Didn’t Like Who I Was When I Was With You?
February 6, 2021
Before we begin, let me say something that doesn’t get said enough: You don’t need a reason to end a relationship. People act like the
“Is Your Name Actually Page Turner?” & Other Questions You Asked
February 5, 2021
Is your name actually Page Turner, or is that just a clever pen name? * I get asked this question a lot, but I don’t
Don’t Worry, I’ll Get This One; You’ll Get the Next.
February 4, 2021
A few years ago, I did one of the most stressful things I’ve ever done: I stayed behind in a house, fixed it up, and
I Went to Bed Full of Dread But Woke Up Light
February 3, 2021
I was filled with dread when I lay down to sleep last night. I’d hit a dark spot late into the day. A pocket of
What Makes Me Feel Like the Poster Child for Words of Affirmation
February 2, 2021
It’s probably telling what I do on the days when I can’t think of anything else to write. Yes, I have days like that, especially
This Love Is Better Than What I Thought Could Exist.
February 1, 2021
There are days even now when I wake up in the morning and see you lying next to me. And even though it’s been years
We’re Often of Two Minds — It’s Just Not Always Blatant
January 31, 2021
I had one of those dreams last night where I was eating everything. Everything. I can remember being little and going to one of those
When It’s None of Your Business, But Your Brain Won’t Stop Asking
January 30, 2021
At this point, we’ve spent a good hour or two chatting about it. There’s a big interpersonal conflict between two friends of ours. And we’re
There’s Nothing to Do — and at the Same Time Too Much
January 29, 2021
“I’m getting really sick of this,” a friend confesses. “I know what you mean,” I say. Because I do. Neither of us have been out
You Don’t Always Have the Time You Think You Have
January 28, 2021
“We go way back, don’t we, Page?” my grandmother says. We’ve just walked out of my grandfather’s funeral. We’re standing outside the church waiting for
When Pointing Out You’re in a Good Mood Puts You in a Bad or Neutral One
January 27, 2021
“You seem like you’re in a good mood today,” I say. Because you do. You’re smiling. There’s a happiness – a lightness about your spirit
I’m Glad I Didn’t Quit When I Felt Things Were Hopeless. I Hope You Don’t Quit Either.
January 26, 2021
Hope begins in the dark, the stubborn hope that if you just show up and try to do the right thing, the dawn will come.
When You’re Worried that a Relationship Will Bring Out the Worst Side of You
January 25, 2021
I’ve written a fair amount about abusive relationships, family estrangement, my own trauma history and unglamorous recovery, and even lesser discussed concepts like proto-abuse. It has
I Used to Date Someone Who Ruined Moments on Purpose
January 24, 2021
It’s weird. I’m over it. Over us. I am. After all, I was the one who ended it, wasn’t I? I usually am the one
I Want to Change, But It’s So Hard to Let Go of Bad Habits That Are Keeping Things Patched
January 23, 2021
These last several months have been a time of deep reflection. Some of it I suspect is due to lacking the normal distractions, since I’ve
Sometimes You Rip Up the Leaves of the Weed & the Root Is Still Under the Surface
January 22, 2021
Look, I owe you an apology. I do. Infinite ones probably. But I am finite. And so are you. So you’ll never get infinite apologies.
It’s Not Good Enough to Stop Self-Sabotaging. You Need to Start to Self-Aiding.
January 21, 2021
As I’m writing this, I haven’t seen another person, aside from the one I live with, in person socially for almost a year. Staying at
How I Got My Start as an Advice Columnist
January 20, 2021
I’ll have readers write in quite often asking me how I got my start as a writer. The boring truth is that I’ve been writing
I Think About A Lot When We’ve Fought — But Haven’t Made Up Yet.
January 19, 2021
I think about a lot when we’ve fought — but haven’t made up yet. And we’re both doing other things, busy, not really talking about
What Is Proto-Abuse?
January 18, 2021
Hi Page, Just read one of your Twitter posts where you reference proto-abuse. It’s ringing some kind of flag or bell or what have you
Do What You Love for a Living & You’ll Like It Less. Unless…
January 17, 2021
“Do what you love for a living, and you’ll never work a day in your life,” they say. It’s snappy. Inspirational. And that’s a big
Science Says It’s Extremely Stressful Being Permanently Online
January 16, 2021
Even before the pandemic drove so many inside, I can tell you that an awful lot of people are pretty much always online. And it’s
It’s Important to Know When To Change Your Walk & When to Change the Path
January 15, 2021
“I wonder sometimes if seeing behind the curtain makes you respect me or my writing less,” I say to a friend. “You get to see
Trying to Do Maintenance in a Culture that Encourages Treating Everything as Disposable
January 14, 2021
“When you get a chance, could you add another bottle of this to your next order?” you ask me. It’s a bottle of white vinegar.
Cupiosexual: When You’re Asexual, But You Still Want a Sexual Relationship
January 13, 2021
Hello Page, I’ve been really enjoying your series of posts on underrepresented identities (asexual, aromantic, demisexual, semi-demi, etc.). It’s been really interesting and eye opening for
“How Does One Become Part of the Polyamorous Community?”
January 12, 2021
Hi Page, I love your blog. You have a really fascinating way of framing topics that never would have occurred to me to even think
When Someone Blows Your Entire “Conflict Budget”
January 11, 2021
In today’s essay I’m going to talk about something that will make a lot of sense to recovering people pleasers. It will likely make very
Breakup Sex Seems to Be a Better Experience for Men Than Women
January 10, 2021
You know… I’ve done it. I’ve had breakup sex. It was just the one time, actually. I was lonely — went to hang out with
