Sometimes it seems like it’d be better to go on autopilot. Easier certainly. And a heck of a lot less lonely than questioning the status quo or forcing myself out of my comfort zone.
Figuring out what romantic relationships and close friendships I want to have has also involved figuring out what aspects of myself I want to feel better about and which ones I want to work on.
My mother said once that I have a hard time getting over things because I have a good memory. “If you could only just forget, you’d feel better. Forgetting helps us let go of the pain.”
“We come to love not by finding a perfect person, but by learning to see an imperfect person perfectly.”
It’s tough to stay in the moment and yet plan for the future.
The biggest gift we can give someone who is suffering is just holding space and being there for them.
All week I’ve looked forward to this, and now it’s cancelled. It’s such a small thing, but I’m far more disappointed than I want to be.
“How are you doing?” hits differently when you’re grieving.
The reality is that burnout can take an awfully long time to recover from.
I’ve seen amazing relationship systems, where people were happy, things were harmonious — and everyone in them suffered mostly from a kind of “pinch me” syndrome.