I can’t tell you how many times I’ve seen variations on this same theme: Mean comment. Backlash. “You can’t say anything these days.”
It’s something I try to keep in mind, particularly when I’m dealing with someone who is being very bitter. Someone who is intent on picking me apart, letting me know my flaws. So eager to find fault that they’ll coax it from even an ambiguous place.
“You’ll get through this,” I told myself. “It won’t always be that way.” And immediately felt annoyed.
The new normal will still probably be kinda weird for a while. Everything won’t be perfect. But that doesn’t mean you can’t enjoy your life in the weird “new normal.”
It’s a fascinating mainstay that pops up again and again in psychological research: Most people think they’re above average. This is statistically impossible.
It can be extremely helpful to make sure you remind your partner that you love them and find them attractive — especially when turning down one of their advances.
It’s been hard work learning to take care of myself (and others) without turning into a vain jerk. It’s a trickier balance than most admit. That narrow place where you’re egoistic but not egotistic is prime real estate.
All I want to say is this: I know you don’t think you’re all that great — but that’s probably a good sign.
It takes so much more energy to get back into the groove when you’ve jumped out than it does to just roll in the groove once you’re well seated there.
It’s something folks who are trying to defend hurtful “jokes” throw out as a quick defense. “You took that the wrong way. Don’t be so sensitive. Can’t you take a joke?”