Which World Am I In Again?
I never planned for this spring and summer to be so difficult. But does anyone ever? It isn’t as though people pencil in traumas on their calendars or dutifully schedule major losses.
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You Shouldn’t Have to Trick Someone Into Dating You
The less time you spend on relationships that shouldn’t happen, the more time you have to discover and explore the ones that should.
Working On Yourself Is a Thankless Job
Some people need you sick to find you useful and want you around.
The Difference Between Not Being Upset and Wanting to Not Be Upset
There was a difference between not being upset and wanting to not be upset. And I had been conflating the two.
Aw heck.
It Can Be Lonely to Go Off Autopilot But Worth It
Sometimes it seems like it’d be better to go on autopilot. Easier certainly. And a heck of a lot less lonely than questioning the status quo or forcing myself out of my comfort zone.
I Find It Easy to Fall for People Who Make Me Feel Better About Myself
Figuring out what romantic relationships and close friendships I want to have has also involved figuring out what aspects of myself I want to feel better about and which ones I want to work on.
How Long Will It Be Until I Forget?
My mother said once that I have a hard time getting over things because I have a good memory. “If you could only just forget, you’d feel better. Forgetting helps us let go of the pain.”
Learning to See an Imperfect Person Perfectly
“We come to love not by finding a perfect person, but by learning to see an imperfect person perfectly.”
-Sam Keen
It’s Tough to Stay in the Moment & Yet Plan for the Future
It’s tough to stay in the moment and yet plan for the future.
Give Your Suffering Friends Time to Heal
The biggest gift we can give someone who is suffering is just holding space and being there for them.
