“You own everything that happened to you. Tell your stories. If people wanted you to write warmly about them, they should have behaved better.” –Anne… Read More »Whose Story Is It? On Writing Without Permission
PQ 22.5 — Have I ever spread bitterness in the community or set people against each other by taking sides or by not keeping confidences?… Read More »PQ 22.5 — Have I ever spread bitterness in the community or set people against each other by taking sides or by not keeping confidences?
I believe that mystery is abundant and infinite. That we don’t need to keep ourselves in the dark to have mystery. And I believe that when you give up on the mundane mysteries, the ones that are foisted upon you by society, then that’s when the magic truly begins.
In today’s essay I’m going to talk about something that will make a lot of sense to recovering people pleasers. It will likely make very… Read More »When Someone Blows Your Entire “Conflict Budget”
It’d be a really odd notion to my younger self, particularly the wild mess of emotions I evolved into temporarily in my teens and early… Read More »Being a Planner During a Pandemic Is a Double-Edged Sword
I was 17 years old. On a trip to another school about 2.5 hours away with my high school jazz ensemble. The band director was… Read More »What Happens When a Rivalry Is One-Sided
I’ve poured my heart out again. One of those ridiculous long-winded emotional spiels. The kind that leave me exhausted and worried after the fact. Because… Read More »“I Just Want to Talk About It to Prove to Myself I Can”
I’m sitting in a pew, attending mass at the church I attended growing up. It’s been 7 years since I went to a service here,… Read More »For Better or Worse, You Don’t Get to Control How Other People See You
I’ve been meaning to cover this topic on the blog for a while. As some of you know, I write essays fairly frequently that deal… Read More »The 5 Apology Styles from Chapman (of the 5 Love Languages)
My first close friendships were blisteringly intense. I had one childhood friend, Emma, whose parents were both zoologists. Emma’s family let me come along with… Read More »Maybe It’s Easier If You’ve Never Really Been Close to Other People
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