I can’t tell you how many times I’ve heard someone say something like, “Ugh, why do polyamorous people talk so much about polyamory?”
Now, I’ve been in plenty of situations where people have actually asked questions that pried into my life and then got upset because the answer required talking about polyamory, even though they solicited the information in the first place.
But setting those scenarios aside, there are lots of reasons why it’s important for polyamorous people to talk about polyamory.
In today’s post, I’ll dive into 6 of the most common.
1. Normalizing Polyamory
One of the primary reasons polyamorous individuals are vocal about polyamory is to normalize it within society.
By openly discussing our relationships, we aim to challenge societal norms that offer monogamy as the only valid form of relationship.
And our conversations about polyamory are a big part creating a more inclusive and accepting environment for it.
2. Education and Awareness
Nearly any polyamorous person can tell you that there are still a lot of misunderstanding and misinformation surrounding polyamory. And a lot of the discussions we have with others are devoted to correcting incorrect information.
By actively talking about polyamory, we aim to educate others and raise awareness about the principles, values, and dynamics involved in consensual non-monogamy.
This also helps to dispel myths and promote a more accurate understanding of polyamorous relationships.
3. Community Building
Polyamory often goes hand-in-hand with the formation of supportive communities. One of the chief ways that polyamorous people can find each other is by talking about polyamory.
Once we find each other, we also share our experiences, challenges, and triumphs as a way to connect with others who navigate similar relationship dynamics.
By engaging in discussions about polyamory, we build a sense of community, find validation, and create a space for mutual support and growth.
4. Advocacy for Relationship Choice
Polyamorous individuals believe in the fundamental right to choose the type of relationships that align with one’s values and desires.
By openly talking about polyamory, we advocate for relationship choice and challenge societal expectations that restrict individuals to a monogamous framework.
The conversations we have with other people promote a more inclusive understanding of love, intimacy, and connection.
5. Personal Growth and Reflection
Being polyamorous in a society that models monogamy as the only acceptable relationship style can require deep self-reflection and personal growth.
By engaging in conversations about polyamory, polyamorous individuals explore our own desires, needs, and boundaries in our more complex paradigms. We continually evaluate our relationship choices, communication skills, and emotional well-being.
Talking about polyamory allows us to learn from others, share insights, and gain a deeper understanding of ourselves.
6. Breaking Stigma and Challenging Assumptions
Polyamorous people often face stigma and misconceptions about our relationships.
By openly discussing polyamory, we challenge these assumptions and work towards dismantling the stigma associated with non-monogamous relationship styles.
And in doing so, we help to foster a society that is more accepting and understanding of polyamory.
Do polyamorous people talk a lot about polyamory? Some do.
But that’s because we are passionate about fostering understanding, acceptance, and equality in relationships. Our conversations aim to normalize polyamory, educate others, build supportive communities, advocate for relationship choice, promote personal growth, and challenge societal stigma.
By speaking up and sharing our experiences, polyamorous individuals hope to create a world where diverse forms of love and connection are embraced and celebrated.
And sometimes… the other person literally asked us.