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PQ 9.14 — Am I treated as an adjunct to, or an extension of, my partner’s other relationships, rather than as a person in my own right?

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PQ 9.14 — Am I treated as an adjunct to, or an extension of, my partner’s other relationships, rather than as a person in my own right?

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“You said you were going to leave her tonight.”

“Oh, you know how it is, babe. I have a lot going on at work, and I’ve just gotta get a few financial loose ends tied up. Soon, I promise.”

“That’s what you said _last _week,” Sarah said. She flipped her feathered hair and stared longingly out the window at the neighbor’s station wagon.

Was it so bad to want a normal life?

Maybe her mother was right after all. This Other Woman business. It had been so exciting at first. The presents. The dinners out. The vacations. But it was getting old. What she really wanted was a commitment.

And this, this is what her mother had warned her about. How had she convinced herself that she was different?

She was a fool. A damn fool.

“I’m not getting any younger, Craig,” she said.

“That’s for sure.”

She screwed her face up into a scowl.

“I was joking!” he said.

“Well, if you’re not going to do something about it, it may just be time to take matters into my _own _hands,” Sarah said.

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NOT.

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If your life is like a Lifetime movie, maybe you need to reconsider. I’m not saying that Craig isn’t a good time. Maybe even he gets you in a way that no one else ever has. But Sarah, there are other partners, and you only live once. You deserve to get what you want while you’re here.

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This post is part of a series in which I answer each of the chapter-end questions in More than Two with an essay. For the entire list of questions & answers, please see this indexed list.

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